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Originally Posted by daisy000 (Post 2259234)

DeltaBetaBaby,
That's exactly the steps I have taken so far. Emailed them not to complain, but just to ask if there will be any more bids given out if people don't accept. They have not responded yet, but I don't know if that's legal anyway? I don't know how new colonies are allowed to give out bids.

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Originally Posted by FSUZeta (Post 2259341)

This is not what DeltaBetaBaby suggested. She suggested that you send an email something like this:

Dear ABC sorority,

Congratulations on your new colony. I wanted to thank you for the opportunity to meet some of your (inter)national officers, learn more about the colonization process, and learn more about ABC sorority. I understand that in the next few weeks, some new members may discover that they are not able to continue their membership. If a new member should have to resign, I would love to be reconsidered for a spot in the colony. I wish ABC at Old State U the very best.

Sincerely,

Daisy000

Then, let it go. In this type of email you have been gracious and shown that you are still interested. That is all you can do.

No, no, no. Both of you completely missed DeltaBetaBaby's point.

daisy000, you shouldn't be looking to join this semester. When writing to them, you should be expressing interest in their chapter (for the future), not asking if there are going to be any openings right now. Simply letting them know you appreciate that they gave you an opportunity to meet with them, and that you would love to get to know the sisters more, is all that should be said.

Don't sound desperate. Don't "beg". Just sound interested.

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Originally Posted by daisy000 (Post 2259230)

I know that not everyone receives a bid. I'm saying I was a qualified candidate, and everyone I've spoken to is absolutely shocked I didn't get a bid.

I will only say that I did everything right except that interview. My GPA is above the average, I am extremely involved on campus + volunteering off campus, I connected with alumni who came to colonize. I took nothing for granted and I went through the entire process.

So the only thing that stands out to me as not great, was the interview. I just feel I was judged in the interview before being able to express who I am. I was one of the last interviews and it almost felt like she was tired of interviewing women.

"everyone I've spoken to is absolutely shocked I didn't get a bid"=/= the woman who interviewed you.

You need to move past that assumption before you do anything else.

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Originally Posted by ree-Xi (Post 2259438)

"everyone I've spoken to is absolutely shocked I didn't get a bid"=/= the woman who interviewed you.

You need to move past that assumption before you do anything else.

Exactly. And I'm wondering who she spoke to.

daisy000, if you're referring to the colony members, keep in mind that they didn't get to decide who joined. Every single one of them could have wanted you to be their sister, but that doesn't mean much this time around. However, they could very well want you as a sister when they participate in their first recruitment. Keep in touch with them, and all could work out as you had hoped; it might just take a little longer than you originally thought.