Originally Posted by AGDee (Post 2250327)

I don't know how they plan mixers these days, but in my day, the two social chairs would discuss the theme, agree on something, and the social chair would bring it to chapter for a vote. The women had a ton of control over what kind of party it would be.

Originally Posted by DeltaBetaBaby (Post 2250323)

Yes, it's called internalized misogyny, but really, my problem is those suggesting that the women are EQUALLY at fault or that the women could just stop it. Could they take steps against it? Sure. Historically, pretty much the only way a marginalized group has ever gotten more power has been to demand it. I'm just saying that "the women go along with it" isn't anything CLOSE to an excuse for men acting like assholes, nor does it mean they have an equal share in the problem.

Originally Posted by MysticCat (Post 2250358)

I wouldn't suggest that "the women go along with it" is ever an excuse for the bad behavior these guys. But to me, those who participate without questioning are only slightly less at fault than those who do the planning.

Originally Posted by ASTalumna06 (Post 2250362)

Everyone who attended this party and promoted it is EQUALLY at fault. If someone plans a party that I find offensive, I won't attend. If I do, it means I'm OK with it.

I mean, would you (the general you) argue that if a group held a KKK rally, and I attended and donned a white hood, that I wasn't as racist as the people who planned it?