It's neat to have two live stories going on at once for the same campus! Glad Lucy is excited about her options! Sounds like she can put the bad experience behind her.

I just spoke to Lucy about pref round.

Rue- Lucy is COMPLETELY in love with this chapter! She was preffed by an active she had met during the week. The active told Lucy that she wanted to pref her and that she had been telling her roommate about Lucy all week. Methinks the girl who preffed Lucy has a little rush crush. I asked Lucy what changed with Rue, as at the beginning of recruitment she really didn't care for them much. She told me "they make me feel happy". You can't get much better than that! She liked their pref ceremony. The only thing she was bummed about was after the ceremony, it was time for her to leave the party. She really wanted to talk to the active after the ceremony.

Gale- While Gale has been a favorite of hers all week, they really didn't impress her much at pref. She was preffed by a girl she didn't know, someone she hadn't spoken to (am I the only one who thinks that is a bit odd). The active didn't talk about Gale and the sisterhood. When Lucy asked why she joined Gale her answer was "I was an only child". To Lucy that really wasn't an answer of why she joined Gale, as more why she went through recruitment. What also seemed a bit odd to Lucy was the girl who preffed her was a senior, she kind of expected her to be a bit better at "preffing" someone.

Primrose- Again Lucy was preffed by someone she didn't know and hadn't talked to. She didn't have much to say about Primrose. She told me she wasn't impressed by their pref night or ceremony. But it seems like Primrose has kind of fallen into her middle of ones she has liked all week.

She ranked...
1. Rue
2. Gale
3. Primrose

She finds out her bid at 4:30 (EST).

She is super nervous (understandably). She really wants Rue. I told her that we will both think positive that when she opens her bid card it says Rue on it.

I told her no matter what Rue, Gale and Primrose will get an AWESOME sister. I also told her to remember that no matter where she ends up, she will find sisters that will be her friends for life and some who won't, that is the nature of the beast.

I'm praying her bid card says Rue.

It sounds like Gale and Primrose need to work on their behind-the-scenes matching. Sometimes I wonder if it's just bad luck that several PNMs are coming to the same party who had connections to the same rusher during the week, and the rusher gets matched with one of the other PNMs. Either way, it's probably just a sign of less strategic/effective matching, and that few women are really good preffers, as opposed to anything lacking with the chapter. A lot of PNMs seem to mention this in their stories.

I know the woman who preffed me at Gamma Phi was REALLY good...she let me hold her badge in my hand and she made it seem like being a Gamma Phi was just the best thing ever, without going over the top. In real life, she was more aloof and didn't match that initial perception I had of her...but man, was she good at preffing!

I'm rooting for Rue, too.

For what it's worth, even now I would be an awful rusher. Some are just not made for it. I can talk your ear off for days informally, but get me into a situation like this and it all goes down. However, I could come up with a better reason for why I joined.

I had a similar experience with being with girls I didn't know at both parties! Now I'm REALLY curious to know if we have any houses in common! I figured out that one of mine is not hers but there's still the chance, however small, that we could be sisters. Best of luck to her and I hope she gets Rue :)

This happened to me on the rusher side...my rush partner and I had high return rates, so when the pref lists came back, she and I had to choose who we'd pref and hand the others off to women who, well, didn't have anyone coming back at all. Of course, you try to match them with someone who has similar interests or personality or whatever, but the available rushers are the ones who don't have anyone coming back to pref.

Oh, good gosh! I have so much to do, and I feel the siren call of GreekChat!!

Step away from the computer, honeychile. Turn it off. Give it time to charge.

Oh, and go to your appointment!

Lucy and clemsongirl will be gurgling with delight when you get back!



So much luck to both of y'all!!

We know where ClemsonGirl landed, where is Lucy? :)

Hi. I am new to GC, but have been reading recruitment stories for the past few days.

I am really anxious to hear about Lucy and hope that she is ok.

Hope today went well! Been thinking of you two.

Lucy began texting me on her way to pick up her bid, I guess the time was pushed back to 5pm (EST).

She then called me......


Lucy received a bid too....



Primrose

AKA

Sigma Kappa


Lucy was devastated. She could barely talk. She didn't understand what happened. She thought Rue "wanted" her. I encouraged her to go to her bid day activities with Sigma Kappa but she hung up with me.

I know a lot of her feelings are because of the emotionally exhausting recruitment week in general. She fell in love with a chapter and didn't get matched with them.

I will keep y'all updated.

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On a personal note, I cannot believe how emotionally exhausting recruitment is. Lucy is just a friend and my heart is breaking for her. She is in pain. It is hard for her to see the positives in the situation right now. I cannot imagine how it is for mom's. I don't have any kids yet, but OMG recruitment is going to be a nightmare when I have a daughter going through it.

I don't know how I feel about this one. I'm glad to get a great new member, but I wish she was happy to be with us. I'm hoping she'll grow into it and will be able to help the chapter make their pref ceremony more memorable and touching for future recruitments. Keep us posted!

The thing is sigmagirl, she liked SK in her previous rounds. I think the whole not being preffed by someone who knew her kind of made her feel weird. I also think her emotions just need to get in check. Recruitment is such an emotional process for all involved.

I think she will be happy. I truly believe that things happen for a reason and she is meant to be a Sigma Kappa!!!!!!!!!


Again, I'm also banking on the fact that she hasn't called or texted in two hours and I told her not to hesitate, so thinking this is a good sign!

Yeah, I kind of agree with my sister on this one. Partially because I know of a Clemson PNM who would have liked to have that SK bid. I hope SK puts on its best face and wows Lucy! I know they saw something special in her because they kept her while letting others go.

I have thought this so many times! I get so nervous for my rec girls. I honestly don't know how mothers (and fathers!) do this, let alone people like Carnation who face this like 12 times.