Please, please get this idea OUT OF YOUR PRETTY LITTLE HEAD! This is probably the furthest thing from the truth. They might have liked you very much. Unfortunately, they have to make cuts somewhere. There might have been other girls who were legacies, girls from the same high schools or summer camps, girls that members knew better, etc., that were simply ranked higher on their invitation list.

ETA: I see that you had recs to only 3 houses :( That could have had a significantly negative impact on where you received invitations. Remember that recs & grades are often the first cuts to make because they are the easiest.

I bet that you are a perfectly good judge of character and they were not being fake at all. They simply cannot invite everyone that they like back to the next round.

Just because a group releases a girl, it does not make them "fake". During recruitment, the goal is (or at least should be) to make everyone feel comfortable and welcome. The girls you spoke with probably were genuinely interested in getting to know you, but their group also only had a limited number of invitations they could issue. I know it's hard, but try not to take it personally. Best wishes for tomorrow and the rest of recruitment.

ETA: Didn't mean to say pretty much the same thing as the post above. I just took a long time trying to find a diplomatic way of saying what I was thinking.

Like thetalady said, there is a cavernous gap between invited and cut. The way the list works is they have their OH MY GOD YES! We want her! The Yes, we want her. The we'd like to invite her if there's room. The she's probably not a perfect fit but we don't hate her. And finally, HELL NO. We're NOT taking her. You're assuming only level 1 and level 5. You very well could have been a 3 or even a low 4. That doesn't make them fake or make you a bad judge of character. What it does mean is they have a very difficult job making cuts. Try try try not to take it personally.

DubaiSis, I think that your explanation is right on.

As someone who had to work very hard at being a good rusher (and often falling short), I would remind you that often, the sisters just as tired/hungry/nervous as the PNMs.

I was not a great rusher - I'm really outgoing, I can talk to a brick wall, but something about the construct of rush gave me horrendous social anxiety. I'm also someone with virtually no filter, so having to watch every word out of my mouth made me self-conscious.

Thankfully, with the exception of Prefs, no round went by without our rushees meeting several sisters - so if I didn't click, hopefully someone else would.

Now, if you needed someone to get up at 6AM and set up chairs, blow up several hundred balloons, cover the chapter room in glitter, sweep the front walk, etc. - I was your girl. I was great at manual labor. And once rush was over, I turned back into my normal charming self...

I tell you this in defense of all weak rushers, who are in reality, nice people just like you.

Eagerly awaiting an update! :)

DAY 4
Cotton Candy- The skit at this house was really funny and cute. It was a great way to start my day. I really wasn’t excited to come back to this house, but the rusher here completely changed my mind! She said that them not having a house has made them a lot stronger and that their sisterhood is more proactive as a result. This made me feel so much better. The girls in this house are beautiful and so down to earth. I could definitely find my place here!

Strawberry- Once again, I didn’t like this house the first round, but today I loved it! The skit was funny, but not very memorable to be completely honest. This time the conversation flowed easily and I had a great time with my rusher.

Cake Batter- I LOVE THIS HOUSE! I have had the best conversation here by far. My rusher was basically me. We were the same denomination in church. She profusely complimented me on my necklace and my geniality. She said that I was so outgoing and would make a great rho gamma. The skit at this house was cute and “Mean Girls” themed, which happens to be my favorite movie. I think this was my favorite skit because it was so different from the others. The storyline was a fairytale and not the usual PNM story. I had the best time here!

Rainbow- This was my second to last house of the day and I was dragging. The chapter was a complete let down after my amazing time at Cake Batter. My rusher didn’t seem interested in me at all. Their skit was okay, but nothing memorable: the usual dance and cheer and making fun of the rho gammas. I would be surprised if I got asked back here because the conversation was such a struggle. I basically had to do it all myself and I was losing my voice. I didn’t have a good time.

Dreamsicle- The skit was super uncomfortable, so nobody laughed. That’s what made it memorable though! I had another awkward conversation here. I just can’t see myself fitting in with these girls. It’s kind of a melting pot here because this chapter doesn’t cut.

Don't think that any chapter doesn't cut (as you stated about Dreamsicle). All chapters will make cuts. Some have to cut more than others due to RFM, but all chapters make cuts.

Ask the women who get dropped from recruitment if that chapter doesn't cut.

My daughter's friend received no calls back yesterday and she had 6 the day before. The girl and her mom are very upset.

Ouch! I am so sorry.

DAY 5!
This morning was pretty rough. I only got back 4 houses.
Cotton Candy
Dreamsicle
Cookie Dough
Strawberry
I was only really upset about losing [COLOR="rgb(139, 0, 0)"]Coffee [/COLOR]and Cake Batter, but I know it’s all part of the process. If you asked me yesterday where I thought I would have ended up Coffee was definitely it. I’m trying my best to stay positive though! My rho gam told me to pay special attention to Cotton Candy because she saw me in this chapter from the beginning. Today we watch philanthropy videos and take a house tour.

Strawberry: I really loved their philanthropy because it involves children (that’s all I can say without giving too much away). I am a huge kid person! What I really love about this chapter is how hands on they are with their philanthropy. It is definitely something I would love to be a part of. I think that this is my favorite house because every wall is painted a bright color.

Dreamsicle: Their video was okay. I wasn’t super passionate about their philanthropy so it didn’t exactly stick out to me. The house seemed to be a lot smaller than the others, but still nice. My conversation had a lot of awkward pauses and the rusher kept asking if I had any questions. I had none! I didn’t really know what to ask because my rusher did a great job of explaining things. After the tour, I feel like I neither took a step forward or backward for this chapter.

Cotton Candy: I absolutely loved my rusher here! She and I laughed about how parents assumed the parties during rush week involved drinking and how chaotic this process would be if everyone were drunk! We chatted about the new house and watched a video of what their house would look like. The members of the sorority could even make special requests to personalize the house! Their philanthropy was not something I had ever been involved with, but the girls seemed to have fun with their project! My rusher and I had a real conversation about life and barely mentioned sorority life at all. This is what I’m looking for at this stage in the game. I could definitely see myself here.

Cookie Dough: I had to take complete control of my time in this chapter. Neither girl that rushed me seemed the least bit interested in me! I knew from the moment I sat down that this chapter would not be my home. The house tour and video were nice, but nothing “clicked”.

Tonight I chose to let go Dreamsicle and pref the others.

DAY 6

Today I was SO excited to FINALLY get the max number of houses back and the houses on this list made me feel so good! The pref parties I would be attending included:
Cotton Candy
Dreamsicle
Strawberry

Cotton Candy: I was so pleased to be called out by name (instead of the usual cattle call) by the spectactular woman who rushed me yesterday! All of the rusher said something along the lines of “I am so honored to welcome back [insert name here] to attend [insert sorority name here]’s preference party. I teared up when I was called. It just hit me: they wanted me just as bad as I did them! The entire mood of the party was serene. The conversations finally allowed us to express how bad we wanted each other! It was such a relief. After a conversation, the PNMs gathered to watch the ritual. This was by far my favorite round of recruitment because I really felt a part of the sisterhood. My rusher gave me a bracelet to wear during the ceremony to emphasize the fact. Different girls shared how this chapter had changed their lives. One girl even was elected the first female ever to be elected on SGA as a result of their sisterhood. I was crying. Then three girls sang a song about being never alone. I cried more. I wanted to be a part of this sisterhood so badly!! I didn’t want to leave!

Dreamsicle: This house was a major letdown after the impacting experience I felt at the last chapter. This party was really awkward because the PNMs were in heels, but the rushers were barefoot… We were given a flower to hold during the ceremony. Looking around during it, I didn’t see emotion on anyone’s face. I didn’t feel the sisterhood! My conversation after again felt forced and I really wasn’t having it. Of course I was grateful to be invited back, but something still didn’t feel right.

Strawberry: I was very happy to invited back here after a good conversation last time. I was rushed today by the same girl who gave me a house tour. We laughed a lot and talked about how sisterhood was all about the random things like impromptu trips to Wal-Mart! The ritual was very emotional. One girl talked about her cancer and how she never forgot about it until she was in Strawberry. There was singing too of course. I really liked that the ritual was presented “in the round” and we felt surrounded and supported by the ring of sisters all around us. I cried during this ceremony, but I couldn’t get cotton candy out of my head!

After a tough decision I decided to accept bids from:
1. Cotton Candy
2. Strawberry

Hope everything works out for you.

So funny how a week can change you opinion entirely!

P.S. I've always been a sucker for Cotton Candy!

Sending best wished to you for a happy outcome!