Okay, thank you! I'll just have to work on keeping myself calm and not psyche myself out.

Absolutely!

That said, DO NOT talk to your Rho Gamma about the time you shot a man in Reno. Your Rho Gamma is not going to say anything to her chapter about a PNM being awkward or clueless or stuff like that, but if you were to confess something REALLY BAD to her, it would indeed get back to the chapter.

And if you tell her in confidence what a bitch you think those tri-betas are, you can bet she either IS one or knows half of that chapter, among them her best friend. Ask all the questions you want but nothing that smacks of tiers or preferences and most definitely nothing negative.

:S I will definitely keep the conversations friendly and positive then. Would it be bad to ask her general questions about her sorority experiences or related topics? I wouldn't want to say anything that would cause her to reveal herself!

I wouldn't go that far. I think you can fairly talk to your RG about which houses you like most. You just want to do it WITHOUT bashing the ones you don't like, i.e. "XYZ didn't really feel like it was for me," not "XYZ is full of fatties."

Ask away!

Okay, so I have another question. I read a recruitment tips list online by a current sorority member and one of her tips was to be truthful with a chapter if you don't feel it is the one for you. Ex. If you don't like the chapter, tell them respectful that while it is a great chapter, you'd feel more at home in another or something along those lines otherwise they will keep inviting you back if you don't speak up! Is this okay to do during recruitment or not advisable to do?

Not advisable. Not okay.

While you attend each party, focus on what is positive and concentrate on what you like about the chapter, party, philanthropy, etc.

If you feel the need to share something with an active, share that.

To All PNMs reading this thread:

Where the hell did you read THAT piece of "advice"? That is arguably the most awful piece of advice given by "a current sorority member" (and I have my doubts about THAT too), and is guaranteed to put a speedy end to your recruitment. Word travels FAST.

For the love of Mike, go to each and every party and be kind, respectful, and on your very best behavior. Recruitment is NOT The Bachelorette.

See, I didn't think that was right at all so that's why I asked since I was confused as to why a sorority member would ever even consider that as a tip. Also I can link the post but it obviously wasn't from here! I couldn't do it even if it was given to me as advice. I thought that would be rude to do... The other tips on her list seemed pretty close to what you all would say on here but that specific tip just threw me off as I've come to learn recruitment is not really what the pnm wants, as you said KSUViolet06!

I'm not mad at you. I am majorly annoyed that someone/anyone would put something that blatantly stupid out there for unsuspecting PNMs to read and possibly follow. Don't link to it unless you send it to me in a PM so I can go there and set her straight. What a dumbass (her, not you! I still wish you good luck and a happy recruitment).

The thing is YOU DON'T KNOW where you will fit in the best. At round 1 you may think you know what's what, but you don't. In my case, I was cut by 3 chapters and was able to cut 1 (it was a LONG time ago). The last one on my list for round 2 turned out to be my chapter. Had I been "honest" in round 1, I would have had a very different outcome, and that would have been a real shame. Even at preference, a girl can be so confused, so stressed out, so swayed by others, that she thinks she knows what's what, but doesn't.

My version of this advice is if you are not feeling it, still be nice, still be enthusiastic, still try to find that connection, try to find common ground. The sad but truth is in 99% of the cases, they're picking you, not the reverse. Don't limit your choices because you need every option you can get. When you're at preference and you're totally confused, stressed out, whatever, and the sister asks what you're feeling, you can be honest that you are those things, but I still wouldn't tell them they're your second or last choice. First, it's rude. Second, in several hours you may be finding them on your bid card. And my advice is don't SIP (only put one on your MRABA form) and accept what you're given. You can drop out later if you feel you must, but if you stick it out and work at it, you'll probably end up happy. There are exceptions to this, but as a general rule, play along and you'll be happy.

Thank you all for your responses! Also, thank you, DubaiSis for that extra advice! That would make a lot more sense.

Another question: I have recruitment coming up soon and I am wondering how social media plays into recruitment. For example, I have a twitter and every day i tweet about recruitment. Is it smart to basically live-post during recruitment about it or not at all?