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AZTheta 05-27-2013 11:59 AM

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Originally Posted by tjizzle (Post 2218607)
i know the guys in the fraternity i am going to pledge, and i am almost certain I will get a bid. Also, I am almost certain I will be gone fall because my family is moving across country and I intend to transfer to a specific school in that state (which I am almost certain I will be accepted at). What if the fraternity chapter at the new school does not allow me to affiliate? am i pretty much screwed then?

That's a lot of variables. A LOT. I mean, a meteor could fall out of the sky and hit you and then what? When I used to say things like you wrote, my dad would say "you want to know the outcome of the race before you place your bet, and Life is not like that." You can't control things. You really can't. You gotta place your bet and take your chances. And (dare I say it?) consider this: membership is for a LIFETIME, not just the college years.

Old_Row 05-27-2013 12:08 PM

I doubt the Sigma Chis at your school would be very happy to bid you if you were honest and told them about your transfer plans. That is just rude! What is the point of joining when you're just going to leave? How do you even know you'll fit in with the Sigma Chi chapter at the other school? You are really limiting your options at the new school.

33girl 05-27-2013 12:15 PM

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Originally Posted by Old_Row (Post 2218653)
I doubt the Sigma Chis at your school would be very happy to bid you if you were honest and told them about your transfer plans. That is just rude! What is the point of joining when you're just going to leave? How do you even know you'll fit in with the Sigma Chi chapter at the other school? You are really limiting your options at the new school.

Totally agree with all of this.

You are potentially offending both chapters: 1) the chapter at school 1 since you're going to immediately transfer (which I doubt you'll be able to keep your mouth shut about for a whole semester) and are basically just using them to get initiated and 2) the chapter at school 2 since you're going to come in and say "hey, I am already a brother, so you have to accept me."

It's better to be a second semester sophomore with a clean slate.

Out of curiousity, why did you not pledge as a freshman if this is something so important to you? You could have a year and a half of membership under your belt before you transferred. (Yes I know I am the biggest wait to pledge cheerleader here but this is a guy and Guys And Girls Are Different.)

tjizzle 05-27-2013 05:52 PM

because the school i am currently at does not allow pledging until sophomore fall.

i know i will fit in with the sigs at the new school, because my best friend is in a sorority at the new school and told me i would fit in well with these boys

amIblue? 05-27-2013 06:08 PM

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Originally Posted by tjizzle (Post 2218690)
i know i will fit in with the sigs at the new school, because my best friend is in a sorority at the new school and told me i would fit in well with these boys

Well THAT changes everything! Feel free to use your current friends to get a bid!

Titchou 05-27-2013 06:20 PM

If I was in a group and knew someone would leave the next semester, I would not vote to give them a bid. Just sayin'.....

Old_Row 05-27-2013 09:21 PM

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Originally Posted by tjizzle (Post 2218690)
because the school i am currently at does not allow pledging until sophomore fall.

i know i will fit in with the sigs at the new school, because my best friend is in a sorority at the new school and told me i would fit in well with these boys

Oh goodness that is such a wonderful coincidence! She probably knows everything about their membership selection too! Why bother rushing now? She can just vouch for you and they will give you a bid right away because you are so awesome and she thinks you will fit in well with them! I bet you won't even have to rush or pledge!

greekdee 05-27-2013 11:15 PM

Take care not to put too many carts before their horses. You're making a lot of strong assumptions -- that you'll get into the fraternity, that you'll be accepted at the other school and that you'll be a good fit for the chapter there. Nothing is a sure thing on any of those fronts -- and won't be until you have a bid in hand, an acceptance letter in hand and an invite to affiliate in hand. Nothing is a sure thing, and the worlds of fraternity rush and college applications just aren't always predictable. It might all work out just the way you envision, or it might not. Keep that mind.

Kevin 05-28-2013 11:28 AM

My chapter has rejected affiliation requests from transfers from other schools. It's a possibility that your transfer chapter would do that to you. Just because you can get initiated at one school doesn't necessarily mean the other chapter will want to have anything to do with you and your friend likely has very little insight into how that chapter selects their members.

You'd be safest to just hang out with the chapter at your current school and be social with them, then rush when you transfer. I know my chapter has had some excellent one-year members. We've even bid and initiated international students who we knew would transfer back home and they turned out to be outstanding alumni.


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