This does still happen. The scenario that I have seen is Nancy New Member goes to Big State U. and either does not get a bid from her legacy or gets a bid, but all her BFFs from High School that go to North State U join a different NPC. Either way she's heartbroken and drops.

Twenty or thirty years ago - we went away to college to make new friends, but Nancy now has Facebook every day to remind her how much fun she is missing. Nancy convinces her parents she needs to transfer to North State U - where her BFFs will help her get a bid to SUPER SORORITY next fall. Mom and Dad go along with it in the hopes that she will at least be going to class and not upset OR Mom helps her pack telling her the whole time "see I told you, you weren't ready for Big State U."

What Nancy (and her dumb mom) fails to realize is that the course offerings at North State U may be poo, and she'll probably end up transferring back to Big State U halfway through her junior year so she can actually - gasp! - get a degree in the field she wants to be in.

I guess it's different if you actually liked the people you graduated with, but I can't imagine going the rest of the way through college with the same old people you've seen since you were 12. I AVOIDED several colleges for that very reason.

And if you are an 18 year old girl and you would rather live on Facebook than in real life, that's a problem that has nothing to do with a sorority.

Oh, sorry, I meant girls who drop out of school...

The girls I know dropped out and they have no plans(like cc) for this semester since it was last minute.

Not out of the recruitment process. I think it's bad to drop out of recruitment cause I've met girls from all of the houses and they're all really down to earth and cool. But to drop out of school.

The part that bothered me and it intimidated me was I went to a sorority meeting and that day was like a mock recruitment day. We went to each house and talked to the girls. Some of the girls I met in the group I became friends with. They would say things like "I can only go ____(insert sorority)." One girl specifically said "I could never accept a bid from a house other than ___." I thought it was odd since we hadn't even been to the house yet...

That makes sense! Some parents might go along with it or turn it around for her sake.

Oooooh my bad haha :D

You do see/hear this and sometimes family pressure and expectations are behind it. I have a neighbor whose daughter was a double legacy (via mom and maternal grandmother) to a sorority. The mom once told me that she just wanted the daughter to find the best fit but that "my mother will rear up and raise cane if she doesn't pledge our sorority." The daughter even told her mom that she didn't really see herself in the chapter...but she did indeed pledge. I don't know if she had a change of heart or just wanted to avoid grandma's conniption fit!

Most likely, though, PNMs adopt this mentality because they only want a certain chapter. It may be one they view as "top tier" and the most popular. It could be one they have friends in. It might be one they've heard this and that about, and have predetermined that they would be a good fit. These narrow minded PNMs really run the risk of being disappointed.

3 girls from my daughter's high school went to the same out of state college. All 3 girls went through recruitment. 2 received bids to the same "top house" according to the girls. The 3rd girl, Jane, had researched and researched prior to recruitment and wanted only this same "top house". She didn't get the "top house", instead she received a bid to what she felt was a "bottom house". She didn't accept and this was the beginning of a horrible first freshman semester for her.

We hear stories of girls not getting their first, second, or even third pick. They may initially think their bid is the worst house ever but given a chance they realize "Hey, this isn't so bad. I actually like these girls. I'm actually happy." Unfortunately this girl had a difficult time watching her two hs friends so happy in their house and she felt excluded and lonely. Add homesickness, loneliness and the disappointment of recruitment and she had a very difficult first semester. She's now home attending CC and looking to attend an in-state school.

I asked a mutual friend if she thought Jane would have been happy if she had accepted the bid to the "bottom house". She said "No, Jane would always feel the house was inferior to her. That's Jane." Some girls are able to handle the rejection or disappointment easier than others. Some aren't. Maturity happens at different times for these young ladies and part of maturity is handling difficult situations.

My Debbie wanted to go to school out of state because she wanted something different and because she didn't want to go to college with the same HS people. I told her that was fine but she needed to commit to a year and give it a chance. I told her it was going to be different, she'd be homesick, etc. but give it more than a cursory chance. I think that's what's so hard for these kids sometimes - they are unwilling to give it more than a cursory chance. Some are looking for the immediate fix, the immediate glory.