All I'm saying is that you just joined, while others have been on these boards for years and have learned the unspoken "rules" of the site. Just don't feel like you have to respond to EVERYTHING before you're here for a bit. I learned the hard way too.

Wish you would have said that first, but thank you. I will now shut up :o lol.

Ha, no problem. Feel free to post, but just be careful about swerving into other lanes, and be aware that things that are true for your chapter or campus might not be true elsewhere.

And after you've been here for a bit, you'll get used to all the "rules." :)

The process...
 

Well, the process varies to tell you the truth. However, having been apart of many complex fraternity membership selections, the following occurs.

While channeling Elvis with a ouija board, the fraternity will decide on the individual member. Yes, he is a brother. No, he is not.
If for some reason Elvis cannot be reached, Richard Nixon, Groucho Marx, River Phoenix and Jim Morrison are suitable alternatives.

Each member is then verified by placing his picture in from of the chapter siamese fighting fish Beta. If the fish flares his gills, he is accepted. If the fish turns away, he is declined. If at anytime, there is a long dangling string of poo from the fish, the man is singled out for pledge class president.

Membership selection is secret. You may think that your question is basic, but, it is not. Hence my response.