Originally Posted by pnmfosho (Post 2132875)

Thanks for the reality check..most of my greek friends have been the ones who told me to try it again, but they're also the ones who got their top choices the first time around and see no flaw in the recruitment system at all. I'm working really hard to keep my GPA at 4.0 and at keeping in touch with several girls in the greek system and hopefully I'll stay fresh in their minds, so I'm being hopeful about the second time around. I know a lot of girls at my school who joined houses, depledged and rushed again this past year, getting the bids they had originally wanted, so I know it's not impossible..I can name at least 4, and that's just people that I know personally. And I know there's no way you guys know me, but I was just hoping to get some advice on recruitment from others at maybe even more competitive schools since I don't know what their policy on talking up and helping rushees would be. I think my biggest problem last year was that I wanted to be nice to the girl in my bid sorority, so I acted like I wanted to be there when I really didn't. My best friend was in the same situation but she flat out told the girl she wanted another house so they didn't extend their bid to her.

Originally Posted by pnmfosho (Post 2132875)

Thanks for the reality check..most of my greek friends have been the ones who told me to try it again, but they're also the ones who got their top choices the first time around and see no flaw in the recruitment system at all. I'm working really hard to keep my GPA at 4.0 and at keeping in touch with several girls in the greek system and hopefully I'll stay fresh in their minds, so I'm being hopeful about the second time around. I know a lot of girls at my school who joined houses, depledged and rushed again this past year, getting the bids they had originally wanted, so I know it's not impossible..I can name at least 4, and that's just people that I know personally. And I know there's no way you guys know me, but I was just hoping to get some advice on recruitment from others at maybe even more competitive schools since I don't know what their policy on talking up and helping rushees would be. I think my biggest problem last year was that I wanted to be nice to the girl in my bid sorority, so I acted like I wanted to be there when I really didn't. My best friend was in the same situation but she flat out told the girl she wanted another house so they didn't extend their bid to her.

Originally Posted by pnmfosho (Post 2132875)

I think my biggest problem last year was that I wanted to be nice to the girl in my bid sorority, so I acted like I wanted to be there when I really didn't. My best friend was in the same situation but she flat out told the girl she wanted another house so they didn't extend their bid to her.

Originally Posted by Greek_or_Geek? (Post 2132893)

This is not true. Your best friend was simply higher on the other chapter's bid list. They wanted her more and she wanted them more so it was a match. This is what we call mutual selection. If her favored chapter hadn't had her so far up on their bid list, she was still on the bid list of the chapter she told she didn't want to be there (although possibly very low on that list.) Without matching to the first chapter, she could very likely have received a bid to the "less desirable" chapter through the bid matching process, quota additions etc.

The chapter you wanted didn't want you as much as they wanted all the other women who were eventually extended bids. You simply weren't high enough on their bid list to receive a bid and it has no relationship to how you behaved at the chapter you didn't want.

If your "best friend" is in a sorority and you personally know at least four other women at your school who re-rushed after declining a bid/depledging, I still can't imagine what you expect to get out of asking questions here of strangers who aren't at your school. You should know it all since you seem to have done your research, are so well connected and already have all the answers.

Originally Posted by AzTheta (Post 2132895)

If you are going through at Arizona (and if you are, don't tell us!!!), sophomores can and do get bids to the majority of the chapters. I can't talk about any other campus.

Originally Posted by AzTheta (Post 2132895)

OP: stop focusing on everyone else. Let go of what happened in the past. It's DONE! FINISHED! OVER! Go through recruitment again with an open mind. This thread has fabulous advice for you. Take it. Or NOT.

Focus on yourself! Keep your grades up. Read GC threads on sophomores, on second recruitment experiences, on how to have a successful recruitment.

For the love of Mike, stop throwing out "excuses" and "reasons" for what happened in your recruitment. You.Will.Never.Know. Membership selection is considered part of Ritual (caveat: speaking for my own organization) and no one is going to ever provide you with the specifics you keep seeking.

If you are going through at Arizona (and if you are, don't tell us!!!), sophomores can and do get bids to the majority of the chapters. I can't talk about any other campus.

You have another opportunity. Don't blow it.

Originally Posted by 33girl (Post 2132905)

She already stated the campus where she is attending.

Originally Posted by DubaiSis (Post 2132922)

I guess I missed it, and reading back over the thread, I'm still not getting it. But that's not important. Listen to AzTheta.

Originally Posted by pnmfosho (Post 2132760)

I go to Western Kentucky, so the Greek system is competitive but not as crazy as UK or somewhere like that.