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Originally Posted by 33girl (Post 2095982)

Not when they just see them walking down the street, no, which considering he's out of school right now is what it sounds like he was worried about. Although that could be fun. "Hey you! In the ASA letters! Recite the Grace Before Meat NOW or I am going to cut you."

If you see a new face on campus and you walk up to him, it's not unusual to ask for identifying information. Most of the time, it's not that hard and doesn't take long to figure out if someone is trying to perp.

I wonder if the OP has some sort of membership ID from HQ that he could present, should he need to contact a nearby chapter/local alum.

He's not on campus though, that's my point. He apparently is worried about getting accused of perpery while at the supermarket.

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Originally Posted by 33girl (Post 2095982)

Not when they just see them walking down the street, no, which considering he's out of school right now is what it sounds like he was worried about. Although that could be fun. "Hey you! In the ASA letters! Recite the Grace Before Meat NOW or I am going to cut you."

The culture of NPHC sororities and fraternities (for example) is such that you can be asked for identifying information or anything else regardless of where you are. There are ways of essentially testing a soror or frat whether you see them at the grocery store or see them on campus. That is something to think about if you want to say that you are a member of a GLO that has certain identifying markers that members can discreetly ask about if they see you--regardless of where they see you.

The OP will figure it out just as hundreds or thousands of members have figured it out before him. I hope his silence means he is figuring it out.

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Originally Posted by DrPhil (Post 2095994)

The culture of NPHC sororities and fraternities (for example) is such that you can be asked for identifying information or anything else regardless of where you are.

The culture of NIC fraternities/NPC sororities is not. :)

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Originally Posted by 33girl (Post 2096011)

The culture of NIC fraternities/NPC sororities is not. :)

Well, TECHNICALLY,... ;)

If the OP was rightfully initiated and is in good standing with HQ, he should be able to contact them with questions that arise (including those about protocol).

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Originally Posted by knight_shadow (Post 2096012)

Well, TECHNICALLY,... ;)

If the OP was rightfully initiated and is in good standing with HQ, he should be able to contact them with questions that arise (including those about protocol).

Dumb question: do fraternities have conventions the way sororities do? If so, would he be able to learn some of this stuff by going to one?

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Originally Posted by melindawarren (Post 2096014)

Dumb question: do fraternities have conventions the way sororities do? If so, would he be able to learn some of this stuff by going to one?

Yes, but outside of my organization, I don't know what goes on at said conventions.

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Originally Posted by 33girl (Post 2096011)

The culture of NIC fraternities is not. :)

Do you know this?

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Originally Posted by knight_shadow (Post 2096012)

Well, TECHNICALLY,... ;)

If the OP was rightfully initiated and is in good standing with HQ, he should be able to contact them with questions that arise (including those about protocol).

Yes.

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Originally Posted by melindawarren (Post 2096014)

Dumb question: do fraternities have conventions the way sororities do? If so, would he be able to learn some of this stuff by going to one?

I apologize but I have to mess with you about this "dumb question" because it really made me chuckle. Of course fraternities have conventions the way sororities do. Non-GLO organizations also have conventions. ;)

here's what came to mind while reading this thread:

http://youtu.be/x-y-50RW5Ng

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Originally Posted by DrPhil (Post 2096048)

Oh, no, I know that! :) I probably asked the wrong dumb question. My question is more whether or not there is some organized way for the OP to learn what he feels he's missing? And I guess you guys wouldn't know unless you were members of his particular GLO.

By staying in this thread, I'm probably just embarrassing myself.

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Originally Posted by melindawarren (Post 2096085)

My question is more whether or not there is some organized way for the OP to learn what he feels he's missing?

Yes. :)

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Originally Posted by melindawarren (Post 2096085)

By staying in this thread, I'm probably just embarrassing myself.

No. :)

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Originally Posted by alaneagle2013 (Post 2094582)

So here's the deal

I pledge got initiated into my fraternity my freshman year. after I became active best feeling ever.So here's the problem I was active for a semester then put on alumni status by nationals because our chapter got suspended for four years for numbers and gpa. My whole problem with this is I dont feel like my brothers gave like a "warning" to my pledge class about this before we got initaited and dont get me wrong i love my fraternity I just feel like I really no nothing that being apart of it brings i.e rituals, handshakes,sayings etc I sometimes dont like wearing my letters because of this I feel like I might get questioned and can give the answers.... anyone have any advice

P.S no longer at my original school in middle of a self given school break

:confused:

I can understand not knowing GPA stuff (since there are plenty of schools with Greek life that are very sloppy about keeping GPA info), but how could you not sense a problem when you realized the chapter had very few members? Were you oblivious or did the chapter say it's normal to have so few members?

If the chapter lied to you about the status and you are unhappy about the situation, I would contact your national organization and try and get released so you can rush again (if that's your intent). Also remember membership in greek letter organization lasts beyond your collegiate years. There are people who are way more active as alums than they ever were as a collegian.