Originally Posted by Wary (Post 2075516)

The original poster asked that if anyone had a spirit group recruitment story, she would like to hear it. I said that my daughter was in a spirit group and was cautioned not to "out" my daughter before recruitment. After some thought, I realized that I could post general info about spirit groups and recruitment based on what my daughter and her friends had experienced without giving away too many details, and that's what I did. I'm not sure how that makes me a heli-mom or whatever, and I'm sorry that I don't respond well to snark and hostility. Yes, I wrote LL a PM asking about whether flats or higher shoes would be the best choice. So what? It doesn't matter, since she ignored my PM anyway.

As for why SG info is posted in the Sorority Recruitment thread, I have no idea since I wasn't the original poster. I was not trying to claim expertise. I have one profile on here and have never represented myself as anything other than a mom whose daughter is in spirit group and who is going through recruitment. I would imagine it's pretty rare that PNMs, at least successful ones, go through the process without help from their moms. I came to this site to read about others' recruitments at UT and similar schools and to perhaps meet other moms going through the same experience I am going through now. I think what I am most baffled by is why it is considered proper etiquette to be sarcastic and hostile to a poster whose posting you don't like but poor form to defend yourself if you feel you are being attacked.

In my original post in this thread, I spend two paragraphs trying to get back on topic. And KSig, I use words and phrases such as "as I know of" because 1. I'm not pretending to be an expert and 2. I don't want to be too specific about the things I do know because I'm trying to keep my daughter's ID private.

Carnation, personality matters a lot. Artistic ability/creativity is more important in some groups than others.

I will post my daughter's recruitment thread later this month, but nothing before or after that. One suggestion: Maybe there could be a parents' forum. I can understand why current students don't care to hear parents' opinions, especially if they think the parents are coming across as know-it-alls or the opposite -- newbies who don't know anything. So maybe a separate forum would solve that problem.