It also doesn't do much for the image of a sorority on campus who boots members that get pregnant and/or need support in other ways, particularly if it's a small campus where everybody knows your name.

In my experience, that did more damage than letting her be.

Whoa, all the guy said was that this is a good philosophy to live by. Rather than worrying about how every PNM views you, you should take into consideration your sisters' feelings first.

I mean, geez, I feel like if I wrote "Live. Laugh. Love." in my signature, you'd say, "No, because you might die tomorrow.. And not everything is funny.. And not every guy is going to like your ass."

Or maybe every chapter should hang a banner on the wall that reads, "Our goal is to look good and get sisters/brothers who will pay their dues!"

ETA: and agzg DID start her comment with, "Sometimes..." ;)

I haven't ever been pregnant, but judging by what I hear, recruitment in my experience is the last thing I'd want to be doing if I have morning sickness/other pregnancy related ailments. This person might want to skip recruitment (which has nothing to do with the stigma of a pregnant active)

Pffft, I was healthier when I was preggo versus not. I never got sick (well, only if I smelled chicken, and that wasn't until my 3rd trimester), my skin and hair looked amazing (I love prenatal vitamins), and I was horny all the time. Pregnancy is different for everyone.

Bottom line is the member will do what is best for her and her baby, hopefully with the support of her sisters. :)

Haha, i used to take prenatal vitamins for the hair/skin benefits in HS when i wanted my hair to grow, didn't work, probably because you need to be pregnant for them to work :p

Conveniently solving 'both' problems? That reeks of 'hide the fatties in the kitchen.'

Didn't intend it that way. Wasn't a "solution" but more of a thought. Could be wrong. Recruitment wears on me physically as a not pregnant person, just thought of a different perspective.

Nope, they work just fine, even when you aren't preggo. Lord, I've even heard "ZOMG, you can't take pre-natal vitamins if you aren't pregnant, because they decrease the effectiveness of The Pill!!!!" Not true. I wasn't in a chapter that had 70% pharmacy students for nothing! :D

OMFG How dare you! Not everyone has a wall to hang a banner on! Not everyone has walls, or maybe their House Corp. won't let them hang up anything. I can't believe how insensitive you are!

WTF are you serious? I am so thankful I've never heard that before. Do people not realize that the things in prenatal vitamins are in food and other vitamins? Sure over exposure to certain vitamins could be an issue, but it wouldn't cause an issue with birth control.

Stupidity and ignorance are what decreases the effectiveness of The Pill, and possibly some antibiotics, antifungals, and other medications. It is wise to always ask a doctor or pharmacist about any interactions.

i took the liberty of changing one word in your final statement. i know of various sorority members who were totally out of touch with their situation(trying to continue with school, working, sorority and pregnant-sorority seeming to be the highest on the priority list) and tried to keep doing it all, and with all that pressure, none were done well.

Offering a pregnant collegiate member alumna status is not a punishment. it is a way to keep the member connected to the sorority, while allowing her more freedom and personal time to take care of personal business.

^ well said.

I think "offering" is the key word here. Giving her the OPTION, but not making it a requirement.

exactly. I feel the same way about groups/policies that decrease the requirements for seniors, don't allow them on exec board etc. Yes, some seniors are crazy busy and welcome the break, but some aren't and don't relish feeling like they're being pushed out. It's different for everyone.

This quote right here has me as an outsider looking in feeling like man are ya'll really a sisterhood or a clique?

Just comments from the outside.

sororities are sisterhoods but they are also businesses and have to break even, by continuing to at least replace their membership who graduate, drop their membership, transfer to another school, etc.