Everything about this reads NPC to me. It is relatively rare for NPHC, LGLO, and MCGLO chapters to participate in recruitment, use terms like "active," and have a house.

Also, she said "I have already been intiated and its been six months since seven if you include the new member term." That sounds like NPC, in addition to having gone through recruitment as an active in this time frame.

Of course i go to meetings! I'm actually just came from one! And I have more later on in the day

Yes i automatically go over and introduce my friends and say hi!

I just want to be closer to my dad becuase he is a lot older 60's and trying to spend as much time with him becuase he is not in the greatest health condition.

How in the world does HS play into this? I just miss my dad.

Thank you!!! Thats my plan!! I even have a lot of things today to do with my sisters and I am Living in next year!! So I think that if I keep putting the effort in it will pay off.

I still dont see the bad mouthing thing. I never said they were horrible mean women in fact they are the exact opposite. I just said we are not clicking. Also from what I have been saying, i think, it has been clear that i mean "I'm not close to any of the members...yet.".

And really they dont know about the transferring thing at all it just something that i've been looking over for the future possibility. Like I stated above I am living in next year so.


[QUOTE=33girl;2041466]So in other words, you joined this group primarily because of its national reputation/values/mission/what have you, rather than because you felt a connection with the girls in your present school's chapter?QUOTE]

No in fact I never heard of my sorority before rush. Also I felt that if I participated more i would be closer. I have made progress which I am happy about.:D:D

Again, you know all of the answers already. What were you expecting people on Greekchat to tell you that you do not already know and have not already done?

Did you just learn the difference between "I do not like my chapter" (your thread title) and "I'm not close to any of the members...yet"?

Translation: NPC

You have made progress since creating this thread and going to today's chapter meeting. Good. You basically just felt like venting in a thread but could've figured it out without Greekchat.

Her use of the term "associate" threw me a bit - I initially thought it was NPC too, but just wanted to clear it up for sure.

Not at all Ma'am my question was "what would you do?". Ma'am all I want to do is see what others would do if they put all this effort and they were still not close to anyone. If i knew all the answers then I wouldn't have come here. Ma'am to me it seems like instead of offering advice or sharing a story you are on the attack. Also no I have made progress from when I first started (new member term) to now it just i still have not found my niche. Each day that I talk to a sister I make progress.

S.N. Many have said that living in, random days, and recruitment have helped them bond. So I should just keep at it.:D

LOL @ "Ma'am"

If this is an attack to you, your fragility is why you haven't found your niche and that's what I alluded to on the first page.

She should call me "ma'am."

Not at all Ma'am I don't know how else to word it. To me it seems like you are playing defense instead of offense. When talking to a few girls i have learned that that my personality and demenor are very intimidating. Nothing about me is fragile. I don't know from your first post it all seems so passive agressive for no apparrent reason. Like you jumped past the part of me actually trying to make connections with my sister to just saying im thinking of transferring and saying I was blaming the chapter.

I have gained some knowledge from the the post of others. Hopefully if a girl is having similiar trouble she can look to this thread and get the same value that I did.

Anyway, good luck to you.

Why thank you very much Ma'am! Have a great week!!:)

Right. I just found her repetitive use of it to be humorous because it seemed like she was trying to be sassy.

LOL, I know Gusteau, but I ignored that.

I find this thread funny because she began with "whoa is me" but responded with "yeah, I'm doing that" to almost everything. She's homesick and doesn't know how to find her niche but she's also intimidating (which doesn't prevent fragility). Yet, she doesn't know why she can't find her niche. Good luck to her.

I don't even have anything to say to this thread, but the bolded made me giggle.

I like that you want to give things another year, Tiana; it shows that you understand things can change depending on circumstances. You may also find that you're closer to the newer members who are younger than you are, which may help things out even more. On the other hand, things could stay about the same for you as they are now, or even get worse for you (and I certainly hope they don't).

When I was a collegian, I told my mother--a very active sorority sister of mine, as it happens--that I was having thoughts about relinquishing my membership because I didn't totally feel like I fit in. Oh, I did when I joined--I adored the seniors and juniors, especially. But once they graduated, I didn't have the close relationships a lot of the other girls did, and many of them (coincidentally some who served on Exec Board a time or two) seemed to dismiss everything I ever said or did. But my mom, ever the active alumna, told me that her best years in Phi Mu have been as an alumna, and so I should stick it out for my last two years. I did, and I'm extremely glad that I made that choice.

One last thing: remember that, if/when you transfer, you'll most likely have to petition the chapter of your sorority at your new school to be accepted into their chapter. From the sound of it, you may already have connections with the girls there, but it's never guaranteed that the entire chapter will want you to join them. It's just one more thing to think about.

Best of luck to you!