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Originally Posted by SweetGirl20 (Post 2014921)

I actually don't think you know which sorority it is. And I can't really explain but I guess it would be based on hearsay, and I haven't been hazed but I actually know people who have been.

OK. If you know people and they tell you that this group hazes, what kind of answers are you seeking here?

Advice on what to do? Because I really want this but I'm scared

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Originally Posted by SweetGirl20 (Post 2014897)

I don't mean this in a bad way. What I mean is that every sorority has positive and negative things in them. And I'm not giving up the sorority. I actually like the sorority but I don't really know if it's for me. And I really like the alumnaes in it but the actual girls I don't know if they're frank with me and if they actually want me. That's what I was referring too, which is why I said that they seem fake to me at times. Now I don't know if their supposed to do that but I feel really bad because I don't know what to do, maybe I'm wasting my time. I don't know if you guys understand me but I'm very confused. I think about this everyday because I want to make the right choice. Or maybe I should just focus with school? I would appreciate someone to be frank with me and just give me advice. Thanx

Three words: play your position.

You're interested in them. You're required to show it. They arent mandated to shower you with attention in the same regard.

The only correct choice is the one you can live with, As mentioned, none of us have direct answers for you. Yes, your posts are confusing but we've been there in some way, whether it becomes a great choice in the end or something you regret. The time you're spending worrying and wondering if you or if you shouldn't could be the difference between whether they even choose you for membership.

Do you want us to be frank or give you the answer? The former we've done, the latter we won't. If you want it, go for it. You should be more concerned if THEY want YOU.

thank you so much! i respect what you wrote so much, and it makes me feel so much better.

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Originally Posted by knight_shadow (Post 2014914)

If the information can potentially come back to bite someone in the ass, then yes, it is too much info. While we may not spoon-feed aspirants, we typically aren't in the business of sabotaging them.

If you were a lurker, you'd know that.

ugh I hate the term aspirants so much

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Originally Posted by NETrySIG89 (Post 2015038)

ugh I hate the term aspirants so much

Then don't use it.

I don't. I just think its a little pretentious

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Originally Posted by NETrySIG89 (Post 2015046)

I don't. I just think its a little pretentious

And I think it's a little pretentious to say that terms that other GLOs have chosen to use are pretentious.

OH! i did not know that was a word that was specifically chosen by a sorority :( My bad. haha glad we don't use it though

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Originally Posted by NETrySIG89 (Post 2015053)

OH! i did not know that was a word that was specifically chosen by a sorority :( My bad. haha glad we don't use it though

Yes, your bad.

oh, we still talking about this? oh.

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Originally Posted by NETrySIG89 (Post 2015046)

I don't. I just think its a little pretentious

Why's that?

I think it sounds a little pretentious thats all. I know you aspire to be one of us, but I prefer to use language thats a little more laid back unless the situation is very formal

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Originally Posted by NETrySIG89 (Post 2015068)

I think it sounds a little pretentious thats all. I know you aspire to be one of us, but I prefer to use language thats a little more laid back unless the situation is very formal

Ah, so you don't like recruitment to be formal?

formal recruitment is fine but I would never call a potential an "aspirant" in a casual conversation :)