i sat in on a talk led by a Black gay man and a Black lesbian. both emphatically said that it wouldn't be a good thing to pursue a relationship w/someone who has walked on the "other side". that was all i needed to know. competing w/a guy over his feelings w/another woman is hard enough. i will not compete w/a man and his homosexual leanings.

Yes, it would matter and I would have to move around. I've had the same exposure as Doggystyle. My cousins would "try" being with a woman, but always end up back with men.