Too many things to quote so I'll just post.

FWIW, at our school mixers never opened up to the public after a certain hour. Thursday was "mixer night." If you saw a fraternity house full of sorority women, you knew it was a closed party. They sure didn't last until 1 though, as the older members wanted to go to the bar. Of course this is all different if you're having the mixer AT a bar to begin with.

I agree w/ Brave Maroon and IMO "safety" is the least of their concerns, quite frankly. Honestly, it sounds like people have been bailing early on mixers and causing lots of negative talk from the fraternities and effing up the chapter's social image. Instead of talking this out with the chapter though, they decided to go all fascist on you. If it IS a national dictate, it needed to be presented as such. However, I seriously doubt your nationals would cotton to your being forced to stay till 1 AM.

Alumiyum - the policy said this:

So unless they're in the middle of a forest with no other houses or fun-time establishments around they wouldn't need buses for a mixer - they just need safe transit, which they're providing in the form of DDs.

@33girl, think you missed the #2 part of what the OP posted. Go get you another cup of coffee!

No I didn't. It says "safe transportation." The buses part is separate. At least that's the way I read it.

I'll say what I said on here a long time ago - if a sorority's HQ is forcing a group to use buses for EVERY mixer, for some chapters the cost would be so prohibitive that the result would be no more mixers. Or completely dry mixers. Any sorority who wants to do that to their members is insane.

Some response....

We had the point system a while ago but it was taken out of our bylaws/policies because it was never enforced.

I agree with 33girl about the transportation. Thats the way i read it. We have a form that the girls under 21 fill out before socials to say that they will be a designated driver.

I emailed our president and the social person today with an email stating how nothing is in our bylaws etc. I blind cc'ed a couple of the other girls who are unhappy with this situation and how this is being handled.

Things have been awkward. Our chapter president seems to be losing control/getting a big head about things. She has been extremely unapproachable and I was told that at convention she was ignoring the women from our chapter that went that were not officers. I'm wondering if maybe she is drained from this reign.

Thank you so much for the help.

OK! My bad (about "safe transportation"). I'm going to drink more coffee and hope that helps...:o

I think it's the alcohol issue that's the sticking point.