There is no need to be rude.

Many things are not original, there are a lot of repeats in everything. But oh well.. we are getting away from the topic so lets just move on.

You're right, there's not.

On the other hand the thread KSUViolet found is very informative...hopefully you found this thread and the one that's been linked helpful.

How much will I be judged on appearances?

Focusing on looks?

So as you can see this has been discussed quite a bit.

The link was actually interesting to read but I am not wondering how much I will be judged on my looks, I am wondering where people get the idea that rush and Greek members in general are superficial. I am wondering because every person who I have met who was part of something was never mean or rude to me or made me think that I was being judged on how I look.

Honestly these kind of rumors you would generally speaking only hear from the non-Greek. Who knows how they are started or perpetuated.

Because everyone stereotypes everyone else. It's human nature. Why are cheerleaders in high school called stuck-up b*tches? Why are football players called dumb jocks? Why are all smart people called nerds? It's always been that way, and the people who aren't morons know that you can't lump everyone in a little box with a label on it. Yes, there are some Greeks who are pretty superficial, but there are thousands of Greeks throughout the US and Canada, so to call them all superficial is beyond ridiculous. If that doesn't answer your questions, you are just spoiling for a fight.

Let's not forget the schools and chapters where being from XYZ High School or being Suzy Wellknownlastname trumps ALL those things, most especially looks. Fortunately that's not the norm everywhere, but there are certainly times where the girl who looks like 200 miles of bad road is going to cruise to any house she wants.

Honestly, why would a PNM be concerned with why people think what they think?

Plenty of people are, particularly 18 year old women going to a new environment. It's not a shocking concept even if you hold it in poor regard.

You didn't answer my question.

"it's a normal common part of the human condition"

I didn't think you really wanted one.

Thanks for your opinion.

I wasn't making a "statement of poor regard."

She's not 18 anyways. But, since the OP is coming from Russia, she may think that you have to be a certain way in order to be in a fraternity or sorority. OP, hopefully, since you've read these threads that have been posted in years past, you will see that everyone has a different personality. In one sorority on one college campus alone, you may have a few people who are focused on looks, a few focused on grades, a few focused on partying, and a few focused on Harry Potter or the color blue or playing with LEGOs. My point is, the simple answer to your question is no. Sororities are not completely superficial.

That being said, do not show up to rush wearing dirty jeans and an old t-shirt. Look nice, be positive, and start your day with a smile. Your personality will be more important than the way you look, anyways. Don't worry about not looking like a model. If you're confident and friendly, that will go much further than if you have this season's Gucci purse.