The only bad part is that 16-year-olds shouldn't be hanging out with College Seniors! QUITE an education! :eek:

OP, are you feeling any better about your situation?

wow, so many responses!!! Thanks!
After reading all of these responses, im feeling better about the situation. I will definitely try to get more involved in my house next year and i hope you girls are right when you say it will be easier to open up to my sisters living in.

I think one of my biggest problems in getting to know my sisters was that I got mono less than a month after we got bids and missed a lot of pledging events because of it and by the time I got better, it seemed that everyone already had their groups and because I am shy I had trouble forcing myself into the groups.

I rooming with two nice girls next year so hopefully I can really connect with them and they will help me meet more sisters.

I have a lot of friends outside greek life and in other houses, so im not necessarily worried about not having a great group of friends, but I just feel like Im not getting as much as I can out of my sorority experience and I want to be able to look back on it and think that it was the best that it could be.


Thank you all for your responses, it is so nice that there is a community like this one.

YAY a GC success story. OP, I completely know how you feel. I'm one of those people where it takes me a long time to get a core group of friends and I am usually acquaintences with tons of people but not best friends. Living in the house was the best thing to remedy this. Just hanging out watching TV or running to get McDonalds are some of the best ways to bond with your sisters! Don't be afraid of "tagging along" or kind of inviting yourself when girls are going out either, you are all sisters and speaking from experience, going out is always more fun with the more people that you have! I am NO WAY advocating solely bonding on the basis of going out at night, I mean going out in all situations like the mall, movies, etc. :)

I loved living in the house! I was a commuter and living in is what made college for me, and I wouldn't trade those days for anything. And I agree with dropping by just to hang out. That's how I became close with the sisters who have been my lifelong friends.

Also, this fall, once you go through recruitment on the "inside," you will be surprised at the friendships and bonds that form from that experience.

I am excited for you! Living in the house is really a great experience - I feel confident you will find your niche. It definitely sounds like you have had a slow start(shyness, mono) but will be fine.

Remember, next year you will most likely have a little sis from the new member class. In your efforts to make sure she is comfortable, acclimated and adjusted, you will become that way too! Some of your closest sisters are still out there, just graduating from high school, and nervous about upcoming recruitment.

Mono probably had a LOT to do with this, as it wipes you out and it's hard to even care about putting yourself out there socially when you feel so punk. Keep in touch with your future roomies over the summer via phone and FB.

Also, recruitment on the "other side" as an active is an amazingly intense bonding experience. You'll see....

Keep your chin up, don't worry about it, and good luck next year!