This would be so different if it was an NPHC fraternity. :)

I won't reiterate what has already been said but I do think you are painting a picture that is overly broad. I am not a Theta Chi but I am an older alumni of a large national Fraternity. If I were in college today I would strongly consider Theta Chi. Your undergraduate experience is what YOU make it not what the collective makes it. I guarantee you that there are great chapters of Theta Chi all across the nation and that there are numerous Theta Chi members who are proud to wear their letters. You should make the decision to either be proud of your Fraternity and work to make it better both locally and nationally or get out and not waste their time.

I thought the same thing.

Just de-pledge.

If you're going to waste a perfectly good opportunity to be part of Theta Chi over some "perceptions" about brothers across town/the state/the country, then Theta Chi probably doesn't need you. Fraternities and sororities want leaders, not people who will be so easily swayed by superficial things like "reputations." Sad...

Well said.

Are you sure you don't mean Theta Chi? ;)

Wow. I'm at a lose for words. Because they chapters you know off aren't top tier, you don't want to be a Theta Chi? Oh and the chapter at my school is really geekey, with huge amounts of philanthropy. Yet they are the largest fraternity on campus.

This is so stupid I almost can't handle it. Being worried about prestige of a chapter on your campus is immature, but understandable. I think we forget that most PNMs are 18 year old who are still trying to find their place in the world...while even a college senior may be totally over "prestige", maybe the 18 year old still has a couple years before he/she gets to that state of comfort with themselves (because let's be honest, questions of prestige all go back to a sense of insecurity with yourself, not the org).

But worrying about a national fraternities prestige?? NOBODY CARES. Really. Alpha Phi has chapters that consistently have the highest return rates, and chapters that are struggling with just about every facet of their reputation. Every PHC and IFC chapter does as well (it might be different in other conferences).

People will make assumptions about your chapter/fraternity post college based on what YOU are like. I met a guy who had only been out of college for about 3-4 years...incredibly good looking, great conversation skills, very "good ol' boy" attitude and had a fantastic finance job. He had mentioned that he was an ABC, and I made the assumption that the chapter had to have been a "good ol' boy" chapter. Later I learned that this chapter was starving for members. Let me tell you, it is definitely not hurting this guy AT ALL. He is making six figures already and he has a line of attractive women waiting to date him.

Seriously, I have never met a guy this concerned with a fraternities national prestige, especially if their chapter was strong. Sounds like you might have some bigger internal issues to address.

:D

The OP seems to be a loser. In fact, I believe that most "cool kids" were once losers and/or are considered losers by at least one other person. The eye of the beholder.

Of course - no one who has never been a loser fixates on it because they don't know the difference.

Don't worry about not getting laid on Spring Break because you're a Theta Chi. You go on a package tour through your school and end up hanging out with the same old hos you see all the time anyway. :) So all that matters is your rep at your school.

Seriously, unless these other chapters are at the school across town and they keep crashing your parties, NOBODY gives a shit.

:D

You read my mind!

This song seems appropriate here:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zCf8iejBdp8

"No matter where I go..."

ctfu!