LOL! My Dad, 2 of my brothers, and 2 of my SILs are all Greek and they can't understand why I'm so involved as an alumna.

I would say to definately tell your mother, others have given you great ideas on that. And although I hope she will understand, let her know (nicely) that you are an adult at eighteen and you can legally make the commitment with out her approval.

No one in y family ever went to college let alone was greek; however go greek was something I always wanted to do. I asked about sorority life at every campus I toured, with my mother and father rolling their eyes behind me. When I finally got to college and told them I was going greek, they didn't think I was serious (despite asking every college tour guide I ever meet lol). they were worried about the money and time commitment...and they let me know that they would not be paying for dues, and such. I still wanted to go through recruitment, and did. although they weren't necessarily supportive they understand. I think my mom summed it up best on my bid day while talking to a family friend that is the most anti greek person ever. "I don't necessarily see why she wanted to go greek. But she's happy and I love seeing her happy so I'm glad she did it." Bottom line is shes your mom and she will hopefully be there to support and love you because you are her daughter and she loves you.

Weird, isn't it that people can have the same opportunities but end up with different ideas of their responsibilities in the end?!

This is the only reason why I've never asked my mom to AI into AOII. I just don't think she'd do anything once she joined. She always wanted to be an AOII in college but didn't have the money. Her first roommate was an AOII Pledge. She was so excited when my sister pledged AOII. I don't think she'd find it meaningful as an alumna.