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Some groups don't "show" well in the first round of rush, but they get better as it goes on and they don't have to keep trying to be all things to all people. I agree, continue and see how things go. If it gets to be pref time and you TRULY don't feel it with either group - leaving reputations aside - drop out then.

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Originally Posted by 33girl (Post 1885635)

100% agree with 33girl.

A lot of us who have posted our recruitment stories have had heavy cuts and still ended up in places that turned out to be good for each of us. Just hang in there.

Well like others have said, try to stick it out :). I also didn't have a full schedule anyday of recruitment ( including the first but thats another story), but there is no doubt in my mind I'm where I was meant to be. I truly hope you find ur fit, and please don't think off ur situation as the rock in the hard place; simply the relocated rock :).

ANY sorority you join will have a stereotype. If you get into one of the more "popular" sororities, you'll have people saying (often out of jealousy) that the girls are fake...or that they're all cokeheads...or anorexic...or hate each other. If you get in a sorority with a lot of athletes, you'll hear the "lady jock" rumors. A sorority with a high GPA is called a bunch of no fun brainy geeks.

Then there are those people who paint ALL Greeks with the same negative brush. You didn't let those people stop you from rushing in the first place, so don't let the same kind of talk keep you from joining a sorority if it is one you really do like.

good luck scarlet! i hope you get two invitations.

Something else to consider... Would you be proud to be a part of these national groups after graduation? I know it is hard to think beyond the immediate few years you will be on campus, but being in a sorority is for life. Every NPC group is going to offer all kinds of opportunities after you graduate as well. If you are excited about being in a sorority, think long and hard before you give up the lifetime opportunity just based on tent talk, rumors and other people's perhaps immature perception of a chapter.

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Originally Posted by TriDeltaSallie (Post 1886032)

I really like this! Good comment. :)

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Originally Posted by scarlet15 (Post 1885889)

So I went back to shocking pink and macaroni and cheese today.

shocking pink: I do admit that I went to this house nervously because now that I was down to two houses, and I really wanted to find some sort of connection. I happened to find one. The first girl I talked to was so nice and refreshing and the last two were great as well. The second girl, was awkward and seem detached and sort of uninterested but I didn't let that affect my confidence level. The skit was high energy even though it wasn't much of a skit. This house is gorgeous and fun and I can actually see myself in it. :)

macaroni and cheese: This house asked me back even though I placed it as my 3rd choice, and I feel like its because they need members because they are the smallest chapter. I actually had a great connection with 3 of the girls. I could sense that they were more nervous than I was and that was a little weird. But their skit was actually a skit and it was very well done. I actually liked this house and I don't understand why alot of people don't.

So at the end I ended up ranking both as my number one becuase I didn't get invited back to more than four houses. But I really am worried that one of them (mainly shocking pink) will cut me so I really won't have a chance to make a decision. I am trying to keep and open mind but ALOT of girls that speculate or are actually in my situation would rather drop out of rush than to pref macaroni and cheese and even though the chapter is small, I can kinda sense a genuine sisterhood and I wish that their stereotypes weren't so intrusive and unified.

I'm between a rock and a hard place right now, but I'll know what is going to happen tomorrow.

From the outside, it sounds like you have two houses with potential. Maybe not exactly the houses you expected, but you made connections and they each did something to impress you. TriDeltaSallie made a great point- membership does last a lifetime. Also consider that sometimes a smaller house can give you opportunities you wouldn't otherwise have with larger houses. I joined a smaller house (with some reservations) but was able to have incredible leadership opportunities that I otherwise wouldn't have had. So every choice really does have its pros and cons. I hope they both invite you back so you can get to know them even better. Good luck!

Good for you for sticking with the process and continuing to see what Macaroni & Cheese is like. Best of luck to you!

Scarlet, I'm glad you're going through with philanthropy round. I had a similar experience and was only asked to pref at one chapter and I ended up getting a bid and joining a wonderful sisterhood and national org. I was skeptical all through recruitment but looking back, I'm proud to say I'm a Zeta. PM me or IM me on this screen name on AIM - I'd be happy to tell you about my experience. Good luck!!!

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Originally Posted by scarlet15 (Post 1886115)

So, unfortunately I was also cut by shocking pink. My roommate was also cut from everything except for macaroni and cheese and she is choosing to withdraw. In my heart, I want to see, still, what macaroni and cheese is really about. And I'm sure that whoever doesn't drop out this round wants to too and maybe I'd rather be with the people who want to join a sorority for sisterhood rather than image.

So im going through philanthropy round, regardless, with an open mind.

Good for you! You could very well wind up in the midst of your best college experience.

I think you're very wise...chapter "images" on campus are fleeting and often change within your four years of college. The bonds of sisterhood you form in your sorority last a lifetime. Best of luck!

stick with it! speaking from experience, I almost did what your roommate did (well actually not almost, I DID do it but then quickly undid it) and I have found a group that I already see as my home after just a few short days, one I never thought I would love. And despite the stereotypes, everybody who sees my letters tells me how much they love so-and-so who is also in my chapter. The system most often works