It will help you because you always have a group to hang out with, you will get more respect from the fraternity boys. I am a newly initiated member of Delta Zeta and at first when i got to college i hung out with people but once i joined DZ i started hanging out at the Pike house (Pi Kappa Alpha). and i met the guy of my dreams there! im not guranteeing anything but it helps.

I think being greek definitely helps as far as dating goes. Generally you are going to have significantly more social opportunities to meet someone special. I met my husband through the greek system. Our houses were right next door to each other :)

Nothing else should ever define you in life. Anything else that comes along should always be 'extra'.

As others stated, if your game wasn't tight before you got letters, it surely won't be after.

If someone is with JUST for your letters, that should tell you how weak your game is.

Being in a social fraternity will only help your social skills. But as the others have said, if you are having a lot of social problems now (not saying you actually are) then a fraternity can only do so much. I personally did not have a lot of new friends when I started college. I was still hanging out with good friends from high school whom attended the same college. However, I have always been able to make friends quickly. So, when I rushed I instantly made tons of new, great, friends and now brothers. So, if you have the capability of making friends easily then it will be great for you.

As with girls.. I have to side with the others. Just because swaps, date parties, and parties in general are thrown in your face doesnt mean you will have a great chance of "hooking up" or a relationship if you werent already good at it. As some of the ladies here can tell you, sorority girls are mostly not too quiet, reserved, and up against the wall during a dance/party. So if you are, they probably wont be interested. That doesnt mean that you can not learn social confidence from a fraternity. That is probably the best place to actually learn it from. Good luck in wherever you go if you do.

I thought that being Greek tended to help boys and maybe hurt girls a little.

If you are a shyer or less socially adept boy, being greek will allow you access to parties, socials, events etc that you wouldn't normally be invited and which will give more opportunities to meet women.

Also being greek will expose you to the same women over and over again making you familiar and safe. Thus increasing the likelihood that one will find you more attractive because of the exposure principle.

So yes, being greek will make it much more likely you will date. And probably date "up" so to speak.