I honestly believe you...but, put it in the perspective of a male.
The majority of males like a little playing hard to get to some extent, but we can only take so much, anything beyond that we think that the girl might be trying to play us, isn't into us, doesn't want anything to do with us...or something else. So a lot of the time, the guy will just bail out, it's not that he doesn't want to wait, it's he doesn't know what the hell is going on LOL. And when a girl is playing hard to get..they don't usually like to tell....

bah.....
one confused d

WHAT?
 

I am at the point that if a girl showed any interest, hard to come by or not, I would be thankful!

Wow I would be estatic, gleeful and down rite happY

your best used to be a Stud!!!!!

Oh come on now Tom, you can't fool us, we know youre a pimp ;)

Re: Playing Hard to Get- A question for the guys and the girls!
 

I do now! It helps me for some strange reason. Oftentimes, when I show strong and consistant interest, rejection usually follows. :(

James...all hail James...

I kind of jumped to here so am sorry if I repeat someone else's point.

If you play hartd to get because you are shy and fear rejection thats a bad strategy. There are some cloak and dagger female players on here that can show you the pointers I am sure. ;)

I think that there *is* a happy medium here somewhere. I'm all about being straightforward and all that, but I'm not going to be making the first move all the time. If I make the first move, the guy is going to have to make the second. And probably the third.

I'm all about rules -- not The Rules (I think that's a bunch of crap) but MY rules. If you like me, call. If you don't (and you said you will) it's going to be difficult for you to get anywhere. But I'll admit that as direct as I can be, I'm probably not the one doing the calling -- he's going to have to call me, and I will call back, but probably not right away. Something like that...

Ah the games we play . . . ;)

James, the thing is, that if I make the first move, the guy is going to have to do some calling as well. I am not going to pursue something with someone if it's not very clear to me that he is interested. I mean, if he's not going to make an effort, there are plenty of other guys who will, you know? And when I say I won't call right away, I mean I'll call within a few hours. I think that's not so bad... ;)

I think that most of the games we play with others are really games we are playing with ourselves.

Kind of a mental game that tries to make us the least vulnerable while getting the other person to declare their position.

The problem, is that both people are playing that same game with different versions and rules.

Not knowing each others rules makes it really hard. Its a wonder we ever win.

DeltaBetaBaby-On a similar note, you should actually BE hard to get. If you fill your life with what makes you happy, friends, activities, etc., you will only give those things up if a guy proves that he is worth your time. You shouldn't be lying to him or not returning calls, but if you happen to be busy, more power to you. It sure beats sitting around waiting for him.

To me, this is the BEST advice. The only exception is you wouldn't give those things up (which I don't think DeltaBetaBaby really intended to imply). You would end up setting time aside and/or rearranging your schedule to INCLUDE the addition of this person in your life.

I do think one reason this "game" is played stems from what we learned in HS. EVERY guy wants the same girl and likewise every girl wants the same guy. Hence-they were hard to get and when/if you DID get them-YOU became a "hot" property.

Absolutely!