That's exactly how it's done at Cornell nowadays too. The recruitment chair greets the PNMs at the front door, they give her their calling card, and we have to check it against Panhel's attendance list for our party and submit it to them. The PNMs usually keep the cards around their necks on the name tag necklace Panhel supplies so they don't get lost, though we've had MANY PNMs show up to parties missing cards

We call those cards "tea cards" and they are VERY helpful..for our chapter at least!

haha yes, I originally had named them after Disney princesses/protaganists. Thanks for pointing that out, I should probably go fix it...

Philanthropy Round!

The next day I woke up and went on over to the student center with my roommate. I found my RoCo group and the Lory gave me my schedule... with only three parties! I was really disappointed, as the maximum that day was 7. I was invited back to White Rabbit, Mock Turtle, and Cheshire Cat. It was a huge bummer not to see Gryphon on my party list, but the others weren't really sad losses. I was more just disappointed at so few chapters wanting me back, but sucked it up and went to those parties.

First up I was off to see the Cheshire Cats! I was so excited to go to their party, and was glad that it was my first one so I wouldn't be tired. The first girl I talked to took me to do their craft, which was making bracelets for the Senior Citizens Prom, which was fun but she and I had nothing in common and the conversation was incredibly awkward. After her, I talked to a girl who I had an amazing conversation with and really liked. Their outfits seemed like something I would wear and the room itself was really comfortable. I was in love with this chapter!

Next up was the White Rabbits. They made really drastic cuts after the first night, so I was glad to be invited back! The girls I talked to were all really nice, and one girl said that I reminded her of a girl in their chapter who had just graduated. I was really comfortable in their room, although I wasn't really the biggest fan of their charity event. The girl I talked to the first night saw me on the way out and said she was glad that I was back that night. I hoped that I wasn't invited back just because I was a legacy, because I was liking this chapter more and more.

My last party of the day was with the Mock Turtles. Again I was double rushed. The other PNM I was with was in one of my classes and I was not her biggest fan. By this point I was really tired and they had the lights dimmed so I was falling asleep. The girls all seemed really genuine and nice, but this chapter didn't excite me the way that the other two did.

After the parties were over we checked in with our RoCos and departed for home. Since the max for night 3 was 5 parties, I didn't get to cut any chapters, but I didn't hate the 3 parties I went to so it wasn't a big deal. But I would have ranked them Cheshire Cats, White Rabbits, Mock Turtles.

Things get crazy in the Invitational Round so stay tuned!

Here is the last installment of my story. I hope you've enjoyed it! :)

So, this brings us to the Invitational Round. I was super excited for this one and made sure to look my best. I headed over with my roommate to the student center once again, and headed straight for my RoCo group. However, when I got there the Lory was talking to a girl who seemed very upset (she wasn't invited back to any parties that day). This is where my nerves kicked in and I paused before getting my schedule from the Eaglet. When she handed it to me I saw that I only had one party for the day, and it was the Mock Turtles. I was crestfallen. Because it was such a large time commitment (my party wasn't until party 4, and I couldn't leave and come back) and I wasn't in love with the Mock Turtles, I decided to drop out of recruitment, since I could already feel myself slipping behind on my schoolwork. I handed my schedule back to the Eaglet and told her I was dropping out. She said okay and then I headed back to my dorm, where I was soon accompanied by my roommate who had also not gotten invited back to any of the parties she wanted.


Fast Forward two days, to bid day. Walking back from class I can hear all sorts of cheering from the main quad and I feel like I am in a sea of brightly colored shirts. While I had been okay with my decision to drop out of recruitment, on that day I felt really sad and wished I had given it a chance. Everyone's doors were being decorated and Facebook statuses were being updated, and I felt like I had definitely made a mistake.


The next day, I got a package that contained my new cell phone. When I set it all up I found that I had a voicemail. It was the President of the Mock Turtles and they still wanted to give me a bid! I was really unsure about it, since I didn't feel much of a connection to them during recruitment. In one of my classes the next day, though, one of my friends said she had preffed Caterpillar and Mock Turtle and had loved them both, and strongly encouraged me to at least go meet them all. I took her advice and called the President back, and the next day I went to a new member meeting at their house. I was immediately greeted by the New Member Mom who was so genuinely excited to meet me that I could feel my uncertainty beginning to wane. She gave me a tour of their house, whichis so beautiful! Most of the houses on our campus were recently built and are really just dorms, but the Mock Turtle house is a real house that has been amazingly renovated. After meeting the other new members, and talking to the president I signed a bid card and they gave me a bag and some shirts and I knew that I had found my home.


So, the moral of the story is: trust the system, it always works out in the end. In the spring I was voted best new member by the chapter, have held two positions, live in the house, and will hopefully be on our governing board next year. My big and I are inseparable and I am so excited to take a little this fall! I love my chapter so much, and can't believe I ever doubted them during recruitment. All's well that end's well!

Great story!

You mentioned one girl in your RC group crying... were girls not told them had no invites until they showed up to get their schedules?!

For some reason our RoCos wouldn't call us for that. Other people's would, but mine didn't. My RoCos also wouldn't let us leave if we had long gaps between parties whereas I know other girls who were allowed. It's weird.

What a great story!! Congrats on MOCK TURTLES!! Will you be sharing who they are?

Congratulations to you and the Mock Turtles! It sounds like things worked out well for you both!

It sounds like it all worked out! Congrats!

In honor of getting my little tonight I decided to reveal my chapter to you all!

I am proud to call myself.......


















A Phi Sigma Sigma! Woohoo!

Congratulations Incursive!

Hooray! I love it when things work themselves out in the end.

Also: this is our second Phi Sigma Sigma ending this week.

love a sweet story and happy ending. congratulations to you and Phi Sigma Sigma!

They do this at the school I used to advise at as well. It was so much easier than relying on the RCs. We ALWAYS found women who ducked out of parties. Silly girls.... :rolleyes: