Hope that Rush week goes the way you want it too. Good luck and keep us posted!

Good luck! I love hearing about fraternity recruitment because it's so different!

Well, today was a mixed bag. I hung out w/ the Val Kilmers a bit during their event, which was basically a football game on the housing lawn. Unfortunately, my involvement in it got cut short due to class but the experience was a positive one and everything I've thought about them has been reinforced here.

The same, however, cannot be said of the Tom Cruises. Their event for tonight was supposed to be a trip to a hookah bar. I was told to wait outside the Student Union for carpool at 6:45. As always, I was a bit early, arriving there at 6:30 or so. I waited until 7:30 and nobody came, despite my calling the rush chair. Disgusted, I finally resigned myself to the reality of the situation and left at 7:45. As I type this I still cannot believe they'd do that to one of their PNMs. I feel so utterly betrayed right now, words can't express the mixture of anger, disgust and disappointment. They've got one more event tomorrow I can go to but honestly I don't know if I want to at this point.

Not that there is any excuse for being rude to an invited guess, but perhaps the Rush Chair was in class, a club meeting, work, etc. and not answering his phone, so other members were in charge of executing the event. Hopefully the Rush Chair will call you back, and then you can decide if you want to go tomorrow. it could be a mistake born of poor planning and disorganization, or it could be a passive aggressive way of being rude. I'd hold off on judgment until you hear (or don't hear) from the Rush Chair.

ETA: I am :confused: as to why a rush event includes smoking, it just seems odd to me. If you don't smoke do you just sit in a room full of smoke and quote Alice in Wonderland while people emulate the Caterpillar? I realize hookah is popular, but as a rush event? ehhhhhh Even more ehhhhh if this is a fraternity that promotes health and wellness as a national program.

Meh, I don't know why they chose hookah as an event but apparently a lot of the GLOs did. You raise a good point though and I've calmed down a bit since my last posting. *Hopefully* I'll get a call back from the rush chair or someone in authority, but it still seems a bit :/ that with a fraternity with the largest chapter on campus, he couldn't have told at least one brother "we've got PNMs waiting for carpools at the Student Union." Ah well, not going to let one bad experience ruin the whole show.

you waited 75 minutes and noone showed up, then called the rush chair, who did not return your call. you need to drop this bunch. this may be a foreshadowing of things to come.

If all of this IS just an indicator of lack of organization, you don't want any part of them, and if it's just phenomenally rude guys, you don't want any part of them, so I would definitely cut your losses now and keep your dignity.

Hopefully there's another group on campus you can find a home with. I don't recall, are there more than just the 2 you discussed? It would be great if you could keep your options open and consider 1 or 2 more houses. Now's a good time to take a fresh look at some guys you may have given an early pass.

Good luck!

Yeah, I've dropped them from the running. The more I hang out with the Val Kilmers the more it feels like the right fit, I've given a few other houses a chance but didn't get the same connection with them. I think whatever powers-that-be are telling me something here. I hope it'll all work out.

Bowling with the Val Kilmers tonight, already reserved carpool with a friend who's also rushing. Should be a fun night.

I'm glad you're not letting them get you down! From what you've described the Tom Cruises seem to be a large and popular fraternity and while their actions were rude, thoughtless, and disorganized my guess is that they have the ability to rush on reputation and don't really need to be courteous. This will hurt them in the long run, but unfortunately they can get away with being douche bags for the time being.

Here's hoping they aren't my brothers...

So, just got back from bowling, and got some bad news: Val Kilmer has decided not to give me a bid. Oh well.

dang. I am sorry to hear that, as I have enjoyed both reading about your journey through fraternity recruitment and your great attitude. Here's hoping for a good connection with another group.

Here's hoping a few of the groups I talked to will give me a bid but I'm not counting on it. There's a group on campus that does year-round recruiting, I might talk to them during the last few days of rush and maybe awhile after if I like what I hear.

i'm sorry preston. good luck with the other groups.

Val Kilmer has decided not to give me a bid. Oh well.

I am sorry to hear the bad news Preston. Hang in there. The right house is out there for you. I look at it this way...when one door closes, another doors opens with better opportunities. Be positive and keep rushing!!!! Again best of luck to you.!!!!:)

ZBT:"Honoring the Past, Celebrating the Present & Impacting the Future."

Yeah that's how I've approached it. Where one option closes, two more have opened (literally speaking).

First is one I'll call George Clooney, who are like Don Johnson old but small on campus. Really tight-knit group of guys, I went hookahing with them the day Tom Cruise ditched me and they seem pretty chill. They invited me to mini-golf tonight which should be fun, we'll see how that goes.

The second option is a GLO I'll call Humphrey Bogart. They're one of the older ones nationally and constantly in the running with Tom Cruise for largest fraternity, Greek Week Championships, highest GPA, etc. Unfortunately I haven't been able to make any of their events, but they do year-round recruiting so if Clooney doesn't work out I might talk to them.

I've always said that I'll do my best and the rest is up to God/Fate/Whatever, and that's what I've been doing. There's a house out there for me somewhere, it's just taking a slightly longer journey to find it.