Yep, I agree.

eta: and no you're not being an asshole.:p

I now know way more about Xanthus than I should about a username. Overshare.

No, that's not what I was refering to, although I have heard of women doing this as well! What I had read was something about skipping a period while using BC regularly...but I read it a while ago, and I can't remember where I read it, so I might be missing something or misquoting or something... :o

I chose to ignore that part, since I can't imagine that someone, who ostensibly grew up in the age of AIDS, would have barrier-free sex outside of a committed relationship. I just figured that the condom-wearing was a given, and he was asking that even if something got through, if the Pill would be good protection.

... YDI?

kinda insensitive, but i get REALLY PISSED when i hear about people getting "accidentally" pregnant. i know stuff happens, but they are GIVING away condoms all over the place (and if you really need BC for cheap/free, it can be gotten). there is very little excuse to get pregnant unexpectedly.

i just find it really careless. it doesnt take much to make a child - tab A into slot B. she's a fool for not taking BC correctly (and if she slipped up somewhere, yall shouldve laid low in tEh sex0ring department for a minute)) and you for hittin it raw.*

*i missed the part where OP mentions this: are we assuming it or did he say so and i skipped it?

Nope, I wouldn't be surprised. I just got home from visiting a little "oops" buddy of mine in the NICU. The difference? Things happen in a committed relationship. After a while, some couples forego barriers. That's understandable.

What I'm talking about is casual sex, or commitment-free sex, without a condom. I'm sure it happens, but in a case like that, pregnancy should be the least of your concerns.

It also bears repeating -
 

NO BIRTH CONTROL METHOD IS 100% EFFECTIVE. It is possible to get pregnant while on the pill, or any other birth control.

If you can't discuss how you would handle an accidental pregnancy with your partner how in the world are you going to handle the conversation when you/she turns up in "an interesting condition"?

well, other than the (harsh but true) advice given here, it should go without saying that if she is indeed pregnant and decides to keep it, you should get a paternity test.

and PLEASE, learn from your mistakes. that's the one thing you can control.

If she is pregnant I hope she does keep it. Either that or give it up for adoption. I hate it when people use abortion as a form of birth control.

Having an abortion because you were on the pill and it didn't work (somebody has to be that 56/100%) is NOT using abortion as a form of birth control.

so do i.

maybe so, but i still cringe @ the thought of abortion in that situation. but, i also realize that the available choices in an unexpected pregnancy all have very difficult cons, even adoption.

Sometimes people use protection, it fails, and have an abortion because they have other health conditions or are taking medications that would affect the fetus or their health. I'm taking three medications at the moment that are not healthy for a fetus or during breastfeeding, and I told a man in my life that until I'm off those medications I am not interested in a physical relationship as I am not okay with getting pregnant and being faced with a) an abortion b) going off my medication and having poor health while pregnant c) taking the chance there aren't birth defects d) having a miscarriage if I chose to continue a pregnancy that didn't start out healthy. Not all women who take medications that are unsafe for fetuses will make the same choice I do, but sometimes things happen and just be glad it isn't happening to you.

the health of a mother and/or fetus can change everything.

(now we're totally off topic :o)