Originally Posted by fanedgreek34 (Post 1821090)

I am hoping you can offer some help. I have a baby sitter who is going to Georgia Southern University. When she took her visit, the school gave them no information about any sorority. She will be visiting the school again before the start of classes and I would like to know if any sorority might take the time to show her around campus?:)

Originally Posted by Strawberrygloss (Post 1821247)

interesting.

back to the story,

I'll update tomorrow. My friend's boyfriend of two years just broke up with her. Needless to say I'm going over to her house and breaking out the ice cream sundaes.

Originally Posted by Strawberrygloss (Post 1815037)

I am a poster on GreekChat, but I created a new username for certain reasons

To experience my recruitment last fall, we are going to travel around the world to some of the most glamorous cities!

Rome
Los Angeles
Barcelona
Paris
Miami
Tokyo
New York
London

I am a BIG legacy to Barcelona, but I didn't really know anything about recruitment. I tried asking my mom how it worked, but she would not give me that much information.

I was so excited the first day! I could not wait to find out what house I would be in and get to know sisters that I could have life long friendships with!
We would visit 4 houses today, and 4 houses the next day for the open house.

The first house was Rome. They had such a beautiful house. I was incredibly nervous as we waited along their walkway. Suddenly they started singing and finally opened the door. I got picked up by a sister and she led us to a living room where she knelt on the floor below me. We talked about what I did last summer and such. I didn't really have an impression about them yet, I was still too overwhelmed about the whole process

Next was Los Angeles. When they opened the doors the sisters were lined up the staircase. They were all perfectly matching and had adorable flowers neatly tucked in their hair. I instantly hoped that I would like this house. I talked to one of the sister the entire time. We had many awkward pauses, where neither the rusher or I could think of a question to ask, even after I had already asked my back up questions in case this had happened. It was very painful.

Then we were off to Barcelona. I was so excited! And nervous! and thought that I was going to pass out cause I wanted to like them so much! Basically I was all over the place. I got called by a sister who lived near my hometown and had given me a tour of the house a year earlier with my mom. She didn't remember me, but we had a lovely conversation. I got bumped to another sister, who I didn't have as much of a great conversation with, but she was still great. I loved this house!

We had dinner at a Starbucks and Quiznos. I talked with a few of the girls in my rush group. One was a major legacy to Paris,she was extremely nice, but was very tom-boyish as well. Paris seemed to have a reputation for having absolutely stunning ladies.

Next was Tokyo. The outside of the house honestly scared me. I did not like the style of the architecture what-so-ever. I hoped that I would not like them. I went inside and talked with a wonderful sister. I was bumped to a girl who was in my Self-Defense class! She was telling me how excited she was for me to be going through recruitment and we had a great conversation. I really liked Tokyo.

Recruitment was so fun! I could not wait for the next day!

ETA: Couldn't read Barcelona's color & the description of Los Angeles wasn't English

Originally Posted by Strawberrygloss (Post 1815180)

The next day it was pouring outside. If you stepped out from under your umbrella for 2 seconds, your hair was messed up. You just had to know how to rock natural waves for the rest of recruitment.

We firstly we went to London. I was called by a gorgeous sister. We had the most natural and fun conversation. We just started to talk about random things that I hadn't talked about with the other sororities. I left with such a great feeling.

Nextly we went across the street to New York. I had a lovely conversation with a bigger sister. Everything was great. I thoroughly enjoyed this house, however I didn't actually take it like I could live there. Something just didn't click like it had at London, Barcelona, or Tokyo.

We then had to travel about 5 blocks with our Rho Gammas really pushing our pace through the horrid rain to the other sororities.

Miami is the newest sorority on campus and had a really interesting house. It was not as glamorous and classy as the others, it had more of a beach vibe which is extremely strange considering the part of the country we're in. I was in a group of 2 rushers and 3 PNM's. We stood in one of the rooms, and almost fought for attention. All the girls besides me were dancers, so I felt extremely left out. By the time we left my legs hurts so much and I didn't get time for them to find out who I was.

Lastly was Paris. Their house was absolutely stunning and they definitely had the some of the most gorgeous girls on campus. I was rushed by a gorgeous blonde and we had a great conversation. I was bumped to another stunning sister and I felt extremely natural talking to her. I left with such a great impression of the house. I wanted to be one of those girls.

For a quick recap before I rank them,
Rome- first house and didn't get a bad or super great vibe from them.
Los Angeles- very awkward conversation
Barcelona- the house I'm a legacy too. I loved the sisters!
Tokyo- Scary house, but lovely ladies.

We did not need to rank the houses, only put down the two we wanted to drop. But I still ranked them.
Paris
Barcelona
London
Tokyo
New York
Rome
And I dropped:
Los Angeles
Miami

Originally Posted by Strawberrygloss (Post 1820506)

I'm so sorry that I haven't updated! I am the WORST person in the world. Finals and moving out just hit me for a whirlwind!

Now that it's summer, and my job doesn't start for another week, I'll update consistently :)

Here is what I put down:
Paris
Barcelona
London
Tokyo
New York
Rome
And I dropped:
Los Angeles
Miami

The next day I went through classes slightly anxious/excited/nervous/thrilled. I got all dolled up again (with the help of my roommate yelling at me and begging me to use her clothes--which is another story). I got my schedule from my Rho Gamma and I got:

Rome
Los Angeles
Barcelona
Tokyo
London
New York

Despite having a record number of women going through recruitment, and everyone freaking out about cuts, I got a full schedule!

I was shocked that Los Angeles was still on my schedule, but felt sick that Paris wasn't. I REALLY wanted to be like those girls.

Today was philanthropy day where we were doing crafts. And as a VERY crafty girl, I took this seriously :)

First was Rome where we colored these pages for a book. I was very into it while talking. I felt much more comfortable talking while I had something to do with my hands. However, I did not get an impression of the house at all. As I left the house I felt that I had been focusing a little too much on the coloring and not enough talking. Or just that this house was simply impression-less.

Next I went to Los Angeles. Once again the girls matched perfectly, and I WANTED to like them. There were two sisters to two PNMS filling jars with mix to make cookies. It was fun, however I just didn't connect with the girls like I wanted to. And the other PNM was really connecting to the sisters. I was happy that she was, but thought that I really needed to drop this house. There was no way I could connect to any of them.

Onto Barcelona. I was so thrilled to be back. I got double rushed here. A sister took me and another PNM through a room that showed all the events they did, and I saw how athletic and competitive they were. Between the spirit and personalities of the sisters and the architecture of the house, I felt like home here. Maybe that was also because seeing their crest painted on the wall and all of the other symbols around the house helped since my own house was decorated like that thanks to my mom. I actually don't remember what craft we did, however, I had to fight for attention with the other PNM and I was REALLY fighting. I imagined myself going down the stairs all sleepy and going to their cereal bar and sitting down under the crest with a few of my sisters. I LOVED this house.

After a quick dinner break, it was onto Tokyo. I don't remember the craft we did, but I saw the woman from my self-defense class which was really nice. They showed me their philanthropy and I could tell it was very close to their hearts. That was very touching, but at the same time I was slightly uncomfortable, because I didn't get that same feeling about the philanthropy. I still did like the house though.

I was very excited to go to London. I talked to a sister who I didn't really connect with. She didn't seem thrilled or very upbeat. I was trying to talk to her, but she just ignored me. We made potpourri. It was sad, but I still remember the greatest conversation that I had the day before with another sister.

Then it was New York's turn. We stuffed bears, and I talked to a bigger sister. I liked the girls, I just couldn't imagine the house being a home to me.

On the way back to the meeting place, there was some definite tent talk going on about New York. The girls said how they're the "fat girls" and how they were so desperate and never met quota. This really crushed me. I honestly did like the girls. They weren't my favorite, but they did not deserve the talk.

I ranked them:

Barcelona
Tokyo
London
New York
And I dropped:
Rome
Los Angeles

As I walked out of the room, I was very unsure of my decision. New York wasn't bad, but they did seem like the fat sorority, and shallow and athletic as I am, I couldn't stand being apart of that. Rome just left me with out anything, but I didn't feel like I had honestly given them a shot.

A couple of men in a fraternity walked myself and some other PNM's to our Residence Halls. They asked us which ones we liked and I listed mine off which they loved each one until I said New York. As soon as I said that, they paused, and replied "uhhhhh."

When I got back, I called my mom, and told her my decisions. She was very unhappy with me for dropping such a strong national sorority (Rome). But she also gave me the "what ever makes you happy" talk as well. I was so torn about recruitment. It was taking a very strong toll on me.

Originally Posted by Strawberrygloss (Post 1820945)

After ranking the houses:
Barcelona
Tokyo
London
New York
And I dropped:
Rome
Los Angeles

I got my new schedule from my Rho Gamma which read:
Tokyo
New York
Los Angeles
Barcelona

I was so excited that I still had a full schedule! But WHY was Los Angeles still on there?! A lot of PNM's were complaining that Los Angeles & New York were still on their schedule. Already, I had decided that those were the ones I was going to drop that night. I was so annoyed. There was no connection with those houses.
I was slightly heart broken that London wasn't on there. I knew I did not have the best conversation with that sister, but I guess she just really didn't like me.

Oh well. It was tour day! And as an architecture major I was VERY excited to see the houses. Where I would be living for two years was important to me.

First off to Tokyo. I was still not used to the outside of their house. It reminded me of a haunted house, but kept nicer of course. When we went upstairs though I found it actually very charming! It had a really nice layout and I liked the rooms. The sister showing me around was obsessed with the candy, but I politely declined because the candy would hurt my stomach since I didn't have too much to eat that morning. The sister tried talking to me about shows like the Hills and Gossip Girl and such but I don't watch them, so that was awkward. And she didn't watch One Tree Hill, so we couldn't talk about that either. I was then bumped to another sister who told me that she had heard so much about me and that she was so excited to meet me. I asked her something strange like who told her, or how she heard about me, and she dodged the question. I am such an idiot.:confused: I left the house liking them still, just I really needed to stop being a really dumb PNM.

Next was New York. Ugh. The sister was nice, but once again I didn't feel a connection. The upstairs was weird and very narrow. The house was not laid out very well. The sister showed me the president's room. I really liked it and actually pictured myself here. But only there. In that one room. Next, we went inside a room that was completely covered in wood, and looked like the inside of a ship. I think it was even called the ship room. I actually felt really nauseous while we were in there. She showed me the sleeping porch which was frightening. I swear all the cots were rusting! As we finished off the tour and went downstairs I noticed a board of all the girls who had 3.5 GPA's or above. It just felt strange. I had never had below a 3.5 (and still don't), and it would be weird to be recognized for that. I really, really did not like that house.

Onto Los Angeles. I was double-rushed here. The other girl I was with just really looked like the rest of the sorority (blondehair, heavier, round face). And she seemed really interested. The house was laid out spectacularly and their bathrooms were really nice (haha, I know weird?). The sister told stories of them all getting ready for events together. Their house looked very new, and was laid out perfectly for a sorority. However, I just knew I wasn't a fit here. The other PNM definitely was. And the rusher definitely talked to her more.

Lastly, the one I had been saving up all of my energy for was Barcelona. By now I was freaking out. My heart was beating fast and I didn't know how to act. I just REALLY REALLY REALLY wanted to be apart of this sorority! I was called last, which frightened me (did I not actually get this house on my list? Was there a mistake?). And by the time I had gotten inside, my hair was between straight and wavy. Basically just not cute at all. The sister took me around and I was so nervous that I was was snooty. Snooty-ness? Where did that come from? I have no idea. I told her how much this house was so cute and great. She showed me her pin and her Bid card. I told her how my mom still has hers and blah blah blah. After the tour ended, we went into a small room and talked. It turned out we were both into running! She started talking about how they do this race for their philanthropy and how all the girls trained together. I thought this was just amazing! But I laughed and said that I couldn't probably run that much. We did have the awkward conversation about the fact that I don't watch Gossip Girl or the Hills or anything. Oh well.
I was so nervous about this house when I left, but I had a pretty good feeling.

When we got back to the meeting room I quickly wrote down:
Barcelona
Tokyo
And dropped:
New York
Los Angeles

That was an easy decision! :)

Originally Posted by Strawberrygloss (Post 1821489)

That previous night I wrote down:
Barcelona
Tokyo
And dropped:
New York
Los Angeles

That day I was so exciting for Pref! I just couldn't wait to see what sorority I would be in! There was a group of girls in my Freshman classes that were also going through recruitment. They were all very nervous, and I was the only one that was at least some one upbeat. We left early thanks to our amazing TA to get all dolled up, and then we left to go to the meeting place. I anxiously got my slip of paper from my Rho Gamma and it read:

New York
BREAK

My eyes went huge. I closed it. Then opened it again.

New York
BREAK

How could this happen?! Tears came to my eyes, and I tried my best to keep them from rolling down my cheeks. But soon there was a flood and my Rho Gamma quickly escorted me to the nearest bathroom and tried talking it over with her. I spilled about my legacy to Barcelona and how my mom was super involved. They told us not to use our cell phones after we got our houses for the night, but thankfully my Rho Gamma let me. I called my mom. She was furious. Not at me, at the house. (Typical mom from what I've seen as I've snooped around GC).

My Rho Gamma gave me the option of going to the house or not, but of course highly suggested that I did. I felt that I deserved to give them a chance so I went. They had vans outside to take all the PNM's to the houses since we were all in heels. There was about 10 PNM's left outside waiting for a van. I showed up with my Rho Gamma with my face all puffy and tears still rolling down. The girls looked at me like they wanted to help, but didn't know what to do. Eventually we found out that the vans weren't coming so we had to RUN 5 blocks. It actually felt really good cause I LOVE running.

Needless to say, we got there late and PNM's names were already being called. I stood there with everyone else crying my eyes out and got the same sympathetic looks from people. Everyone else's but mine got called, so they had a sister take me in and sit down with me. We talked and she let me cry. Then they had the president come out and talk to me. I didn't have the dinner there, but finally calmed down enough to join the others during the ceremony. I was still crying slightly and it was excruciatingly embarrassing. Finally they directed us outside, but all the PNM's had a sister to direct them where to go and I didn't. It was awkward but after a while a sister with another PNM picked me up and let me walk with them. By then the party was over.

I couldn't stand crying in front of people anymore and ran to my dorm. My roommate was unfortunately there and gave me sparkling lemonade which was supposed to be for when I pledged. Which just made me cry even more. Then she shoved Oreo's in my mouth which made me sick. And she had people in the room while I just cried in the corner.

My Rho Gamma called and asked if I would be back and I said that I couldn't possibly do it. So she told me to officially withdraw from recruitment at the Panhellenic office the next morning.



more to come...

Originally Posted by Ch2tf (Post 1821773)

I'm confused how she kept dropping New York, yet the kept appearing on the schedule?

I was rooting for Barcelona, sad to see them go.

Originally Posted by AZ-AlphaXi (Post 1821816)

It looked to me like it was priority ranking not accept/regret .. in priority ranking you chose the order in which you want to accept invitations. You don't really drop anyone.

Originally Posted by Strawberrygloss (Post 1822254)

(I've looked at rules now, and was I even allowed to go through informal since I technically did receive a bid?)

Originally Posted by ASTalumna06 (Post 1822260)

You are allowed to participate in recruitment again as long as you never ACCEPTED your bid. Otherwise, you'd have to wait a full calender year before going through again.