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Originally Posted by alphagamzetagam (Post 1788860)

OTWPERSONALLYIPREFERWHENOURSISTERSDISPLAYTHEIRALPHAGAMPRIDE!

That's actually pretty.

DreamPearl edited her post. :) I wish her well.

Yeah I hope things do go well for her - that's always such a tough spot to be in and it seems to happen a lot more than one would think - from both ends.

It's at times like this where the camera part of the cell phone would come in handy. If she doesn't believe you, there's always the show Cheaters.

Tell her so she doesnt end up on Cheaters

I'd say something (I've had to do it before) because of the public health aspect. Once it happened that they had an open relationship, but I'd want to know if I was potentially being exposed to STDs (emotional betrayal is a whole other issue).

You are probably wondering what happened yesterday. Well, I took her to dinner, and I broke the news to her in the most gentle manner that I could without overcompensating. At first, she looked at me like she was in denial, yet again, but then she burst in tears and asked me, " In my house?", and all I could say to her was, "Yea sweetie, in your house." By the end of the night we were implementing a plan to help her move forward. Things turned out bitter sweet, because while I am engaged, she is filing for a divorce. She believes that it is about time for her to be alone, and I agree.

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Originally Posted by DreamPearl1908 (Post 1788795)

I seem to have a bit of a problem and it is history behind it so please be patient...
My best friend of 9 years is married to a man (we'll call him Jack) that I never agreed was even a merely good candidate. He is a cheater and I have always suspected such, though I never really had any proof. My best friend (we'll call her Suzie) Suzie has had men that flirt with me or make gests towards me and I let her know. Suzie gets mad at me and tells me that it is something that I have done. (I believe it is her lack of confidence)Anyhow, I went to Suzie's house yesterday and Jack's mistress answered the door IN HER UNDERWEAR with him following close behind. Jack begged me not to say anything remarking, "(Suzie) won't believe you because you know she thinks you want me." It is true that Suzie feels threatened with me around Jack, but its because Jack has made gests towards me and I told her... OMG! I just don't know whether to tell her or not? I can't stand seeing my sister with such a poor excuse for a man. S.O.S. :confused:

QFP just because. :p

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Originally Posted by DreamPearl1908 (Post 1789234)

she is filing for a divorce.

Don't speak too soon. She found out yesterday. Who knows what will really come of this.

But don't concern yourself with the rest of this. Go back to minding your business. Be there to love her no matter what she and her husband decide to do.

Yeah I am done with that and on to planning my future. Cheers to marriage (when it is with the right person).

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Originally Posted by DrPhil (Post 1788847)

She may appreciate the info and she may not appreciate it. Be prepared for both responses.

I say to tell her because you were THERE. It's not just gossip. If the info were to surface later, you'd be hardpressed to explain why you didn't tell her.

i know i'm late to the party, but this is also my philosophy. Kind of like the safety drills from elementary school - if you SEE something, SAY something.

i know how hard/akward it must have been to tell her (and unfortunately i know how humiliating it is to be on the receiving end of that news), so to preserve your friendship just step back.

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Originally Posted by starang21 (Post 1789689)

lime green jello?

Her first post was originally in lime green.

Now what threw me off was the fact that the 'mistress' answered the door?!?!?! :confused:

Kinda hard to believe she was totally unaware of his 'creeping'.

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Originally Posted by PinkPen (Post 1789712)

Kinda hard to believe she was totally unaware of his 'creeping'.

She's probably been in some form of denial for a while...maybe not about this mistress, but possibly others?

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Originally Posted by Munchkin03 (Post 1789728)

She's probably been in some form of denial for a while...maybe not about this mistress, but possibly others?

I think that's kind of evident by her reaction "In my house?" It's not that she was surprised he was with someone, her surprise was that they were in her house. I don't think my first reaction when finding out someone was cheating the first time was *where* they were cheating.