OleMissMom, things are different from when you and I were in school. Back in the day, quota was often set after first or second parties and this resulted in many, many girls going unbid but now it's set much later. Also, many schools utilize quota additions, which means that after the sororites go to quota, they may be able to add some women. Anything scary you heard about recruitment dropout rates is almost certainly connected to the 'pedigree' issue.

Circlet, send 2 to any group that you can.

Thank you Carnation. For the second recommendation, would you suggest full recs that include a RIF, picture, transcript and resume or simply a letter of support?

Remember too that all recs are not created equal - better a few recs from alumna who really KNOW the pnm and can give the chapter some insight into the whole woman than dozens of recs from women who barely know her.

What she said!

If possible, send the whole thing...well, maybe not the transcript. Some sororities don't take letters of support without the RIF.

Thank you for clearing this up Carnation. I just want to make sure I am on a "level playing field" for recruitment. After that, I realize it is up to me to present myself and find the best possible fit.

I know, at least on the KD reference form there is a place for a second signer. Two references in one, so no need to fill out a second form and with a simple letter of support, that would be three references. Enough, I would think. But bottom line, if they love her, they love her and all the references in the world won't make a difference as long as they have that ONE.

A few years back I was contacted by a young woman in a neighboring Northern state asking for a recommendation. She had chosen Ole Miss after falling in love with the campus, and was given my name as a possible contact. I had a brief phone conversation with her, and wrote her a rec. She did not join my group, but found happiness in another. So, yes, it is possible to get a bid at Ole Miss if you're not from the South and don't have connections in the chapters there. :)