I usually just say "I'm an alumna member of Tri Delta." It includes that I'm a member currently, and it also includes that I'm an alumna. It's true that saying "I am a Tri Delta" would confuse non-Greeks. They'd probably be like, "didn't you graduate college already?"

Exactly, which explains the engagement announcements in the paper, because the most common formulation I have seen there is that "Miss Smith attended the University of Texas, where she graduated with a degree in microbiology and was a member of Pi Beta Phi sorority." Saves room in the announcement to do it that way.

I suppose you could argue that they're thinking of their membership as over by using that formulation instead of saying "Miss Smith is a member of Pi Phi," but I tend to think that people who think about their sorority enough after college to list in it their engagement and wedding announcements probably DO consider membership as a lifetime thing.

That too.

We've noticed that as well. I think people are right as to the reasons -- not wanting to look like you're still hanging on to college days too much, framing it in terms of being active in the chapter at college, it has become "the form" for wedding write-ups, etc.

I frankly can't remember how it was worded in our wedding write-up. I have seen similar wording in obituaries. ("He was a graduate of Tech University, where he was a member of XYZ Fraternity.") I was careful when I wrote my father's obituary: "He was a graduate of Tech University, where he was initiated into Kappa Sigma Fraternity."

Exactly. I always say, "I am a Sigma Kappa alumna," for that reason.

While I will concede that the "membership is for life" concept is far more prevalent among NPHC Greeks than NIC or NPC Greeks, I think the overwhelming majority of all Greek alumni on this board consider their membership to be for life. I know I do.

I agree that, in NPC at least, saying "I'm an alumna [member] of XYZ" is usually the best way to go. In our culture at least, saying "I'm a XYZ" sometimes raises eyebrows about being "too involved" (sad, but true to those not familiar with NPCs), but saying "I was an XYZ" is sort of disrespectful.

Agreed. It's a sort of wishy-washy subject, because some people feel that when you say "oh I was an XYZ" that you're (for lack of a better term) 'done' with the organization. I know that I will consider my membership lifelong and I plan to participate in an alumna group when I graduate. I guess a lot of it is how the individual considers it to be.

On some occasions when someone has said, "I was," I'll respond with a smile and say, "Are you still?" to which the person usually says, "Well, yes," with a kind of surprised admission.