Yeah, I just checked the Fraternity Recruitment forum and saw that you told him the same thing at 11:39 am yesterday. But, seriously, why doesn't he know to talk to his pledge trainer about this anyway? :rolleyes:

Because that would require actual effort on his part! Can't have that!

It's absolutely true at my chapter and most others that I'm familiar with. Anyways, how's sorority life treating you?

*dead*

I call bogus on this guy.

In the remote case that this is not bogus, the way to quit is to say to your pledge educator or president, "I quit" and hand in your pin.

How to drop out
 

Pay up any dues owed for this month so you're paid up. Check with the chapter treasurer to see if you are paid up. Type up a letter with today's date stating that you are dropping out of pledgeship. Sign the letter. Give to your pledgemaster with any pin or paraphernalia you have been given. CC a copy to the president and chapter adviser.

Hahahaha...no but really, I pretty much agree. All of the fraternities my friends are in have absurdly lax policies for what you have to show up for and they still have great social, rush, etc. I guess it's just one of the bigger differences between fraternities and sororities.

I understand that I will need to speak to my pledge educator, but what would be the best way to approach this? Should I send him an email asking to set up a meeting, or wait until after a pledge meeting to address my concerns?

I still say just stick it out. College has plenty of things to distract you other than fraternity life. Pledging is by far more work than being a brother and you are admittedly almost done with it already. So you have terrible grades and nothing to show for it this semester if you drop. My grades were a little worse as a pledge, but not significantly so. It all comes down to time management and work ethic, if you aren't making good grades to start with dropping pledging isn't going to help, you're just going to get distracted by something else instead.

That said, if you really want to quit just go to the damn house and talk to him, you don't need to set up a meeting and try to deal with this by email.

This is a HORRIBLE attitude. Holding pledges to a higher standard than the brothers is a disaster. It sets your chapter up for failure, or at least a smaller amount of success than it would otherwise be capable. Brothers at my chapter have a MUCH harder time than the pledges. We require you be at at chapter meetings, initiation and pledging ceremonies, and I-Week activities, Have committed to memory part of the ritual, and participation in some sort of philanthropy EVERY semester.

You might call us a "sorority" but we're in the process of making good men better, and not all about going out and "having a good time." We can have a good time, but business needs to be taken care of first. thats all there is to it.


to answer the OP's question: Just be a man about it. Go to a pledge meeting and say it in front of your pledge brothers and your pledge educator. Let them know how you feel, that you enjoyed your time with the guys, that you'll try and come back if your studies allow it, and be done with it. The pledge ed will let the brothers know.