on pins and needles here...........hopefully we'll hear soon!

One of the serious upside to parents writing the threads and posting is that we won't have to wait (at least in theory) for the celebrations to be over before we hear.

Or at least I hope this is the case!

A sad mom in NC
 

Congrats to all the girls whose wishes came true for them.

My daughter is in her dorm room sobbing all alone. She was hoping for a open bid, but time I guess time is running out for her. It is so hard for us moms, especially those who were in sororities at UGA, to see our children so hurt.

I don't! I think it's a very minor point as far as privacy's concerned. I'd rather see a list so I know who pledged where...can count and find out who missed quota...who from my hometown pledged where...
Auburn and Alabama are UNUSUAL that they publish the lists, and so quickly. Most university public relations departments don't want to bother.

I'm sorry Hollywin.

I wish that rho chis were more forthcoming with PNMs thinking of dropping that very few get open bids.

The only real reason that a girl at UGA should ever drop is that she would rather not be Greek than join the groups she has left. The chances are far too slim that she will get picked back up by groups that have released her to make it worth taking the chance.

I'm not saying that it doesn't happen every once in a while, but it is so extremely rare as to not make good sense.

(I don't know how many girls who re-rush as sophomores improve their results; that's a totally different issue.)

We'll have to wait to see who might be COBing.

ETA: I was looking at last year's results here, and while I doubt everyone completely reported the number snap bids that their groups gave, of all the girls last year accounted for on GC, only 15 were reported as snaps out of the 1200+ girls who rushed in 2006.

cluelessugamon,
How did everything turn out???

Did you miss the BA episode on here? It takes very little information to stalk someone nowadays. At the very least, they should have all of the PNMs sign a privacy release when they sign up for rush, stating that their name and chapter can be published, should they recieve a bid.

She only had one left when she dropped out and she new that the chances of pledging there were slim. I think she dropped just so as to avoid the humiliation of saying she was cut out.

I think they should make the information available from girls who are willing to release it. I think most girls would be proud to have their names listed with their new affiliations for hometown folks to check.

Personally, while I enjoy being able to sort by hometown because it makes scanning the Auburn list for people I know easier, that's the only part that I really think could be used to stalk, unless the school doesn't even put out a student directory.

A name and an affiliation on a list posted for a few weeks doesn't seem like that much information to me.

I really am sorry that she had this result.

Let's cross our fingers for COB for her.

If this is a year in which they raise total, there might be a few openings later. Who can say for sure?

Life after Rush
 

I'm so sad reading the posts from the Moms whose girls have had their self-esteems crushed by this process. It all sounds so familiar to me, nearly 10 years later, I still remember sitting in a hallway at the Tate Student Center crying to my Mom because I thought I wasn't pretty enough. "Of course you're pretty!" she said. And my response was, "but not pretty like these other girls." I was down to 3 parties at the last round and I wasn't interested in pledging the sororities I had left. (In retrospect, two of the houses probably would have been absolutely great for me, but due to preconceived notions and listening to the way some girls made fun of those sororities, no way was I going to join. I was just as shallow as those girls at the other houses who had cut me.)

However, there was life, and life-abundant for me after Fall rush. Even if I had never pledged a sorority I would have had a fun college experience. But I did go through rush again in the spring, and pledged Gamma Phi Beta. I had a great experience with it and loved how many different types of girls there were in my sorority. I felt very comfortable there and met some wonderful people. I continue to meet wonderful people now through the organization, and keep in touch with friends from my chapter. I married my college sweetheart (who I met at a sorority/fraternity social) and we've been married for four years.

Even though it seems like this is the end of the world for some of your daughters (and believe me, I understand why they feel that way) please tell them that the girls with full party schedules are not necessarily the ones with full lives. It's impossible not to compare yourself to the ones who got bids, but sorority rush is looking for such a narrow definition and in the crazy process, it is impossible to see the true beauty and full picture of someone.

So what I'm saying is, while sorority life is not meaningless, the rush process is completely meaningless!!! Your daughters are beautiful and I wish I could be there in person to comfort each and every one of them.

I am so sorry... but she will be fine. It is hard for us moms especially as we are not there to comfort them. From personal experience, my daughter was always just fine after she cried to me. I was the one at home worried about her and she had "unloaded" and things were better for her.

Hope your daughter has a good schedule and has met some good friends through all of this.

hollywin i feel your daughter's sorrow
 

I completely understand what your daughter is going through right now. Two years ago I was in the same position. I was told that I was going back to a certain house and that they would see me the next day and then that day didn't come. Even worse, my roommate got into the sorority I wanted to be a part of. Though I am still saddened two years later everytime rush rolls around and when I see sorority pictures and t-shirts, I know it's not the end of the world. I am now young and married and that would have never happened if I had joined a sorority. I love my life and I love my friends. There is life after rush. Please feel free to contact me or have your daughter facebook message me. I would love to talk to her and tell her my experience. I know it helps hearing it from someone your age...it helped me. I am still a student at UGA so I'm in town. I am so sorry for your daughter's situation...I wouldn't wish it upon anyone b/c I know exactly how it feels. Tell her to find someone on her hall and go to dinner...have a girls night and forget about Milledge Ave. :)

Much Non-greek love!

UGA Mom
 

Got the new about 6 that my daughter pledged Sigma Kappa where she was a legacy, and her best friend pledged Pi Beta Phi. Both were thrilled and on the way to parties at the house. Wishing good results for the other girls.

Congrats!

(We hear so many bad outcomes that it's especially wonderful to hear the good!)