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I'm very confused concerning recommendations. I plan on rushing as a sophomore as I am transferring. I know many girls in sororities at m current school who said they would be happy to write me recommendation. I am unsure if the recommendation must be from an alumnae of the chapter that attended the actual university I plan on rushing at. If I do not know any alumnae, will I be able to contact one in some way? Please help!

Some orgs require recommendations to come for alumnae, others will allow a collegate member to write one for someone going through recruitment at another school.

Recomendations do not need to come from someone that attended the same school where you are going through recruitment.

Does your hometown have an alumnae panhellenic? If they do, they may be able to put you in contact with women from different groups.

ForeverRoses is right, but I would only use the local Alumnae Panhellenic after you have exhausted EVERY man woman and child you know first. Once you've decided where you're going to school, get the list of participating sororities and start asking everyone you know. The sorority women you know are a great start and some will be able to help you directly or through an introduction to an alumna, but (I think) most sororities don't allow collegiate members to write recs. A few do and that's great, but I wouldn't plan on that helping you get out of this the easy way.

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Originally Posted by DubaiSis (Post 2135757)

, but (I think) most sororities don't allow collegiate members to write recs. A few do and that's great, but I wouldn't plan on that helping you get out of this the easy way.

Off-topic, but I thought it was the other way around? I always thought that the sororities who don't allow collegians to write recs were far less than those who do.

Or maybe I'm just making this up, I don't know. :confused:

i think there is a list somewhere on the sororities that do allow collegians to write recs. and those that don't allow them to.

Just a quick question regarding recommendations as I have no ties or connections to the Greek system. It seems that everyone suggests getting in touch with the local Alumnae Club to meet with women and obtain recommendations, but I cannot seem to find one in the greater Boston area. I was wondering if anyone could help me to find some resources for recommendations in Boston or point me towards any alumnae who would be willing to help me. Thank you so much!

HCM, are you going to school in the Boston area as well? The last I knew (and this info is a few years old, things can change), the Boston Alum Panhellenic was not functioning.

I think you're right that it is no longer functioning. I will actually be going to school in California.

more opinions on recs

what NOT to do...

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"ummm, my brother was in a fraternity** so I already know everything there is to know."

**fraternity was lower tier and on another campus many states away in the other direction

Alumna kindly offered to help you one time in person, and twice via email. You did not respond to either email.

2. Do not contact that same alumna, 6 months later and during the Christmas holidays, and tell her that recs are due in a week so can she get hers in by that time. Providing her with a bulleted LIST of activities ("cheerleading, track, choir") and not an actual resume didn't help your cause.

3. Once you drop out of that recruitment, because, ya know, no recs and all, do not cop the tired attitude of "sororities are SO elitist. How could they know I am not the most special of special snowflakes in only 15 minutes?" (hint: they can't... but the rec that COULD have been sent in 6 months prior might have given them a heads up about you. Or you could have been as rude to them as you were to the alumna who was actually trying to help you and they did learn everything they needed to know in that short 15 minutes.)

4. After not getting your bid do not become the campus alcoholic and tramp, including full documentation of such all over your very public social media. Your campus is not as large as you think it is. They will know.

Because, now that word has gotten back to us that you plan to try to rush again this year we are sitting back with our popcorn. This will NOT turn out well for you.

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Originally Posted by ComradesTrue (Post 2294866)

1. If you are going to be going through an uber competitive recruitment, at a school several states away so you have no internal connections, and an alumna who grew up in that city- and still has connections on that campus- offers to help you, guide you, and write a rec for you the answer is NOT a cocky:

**fraternity was lower tier and on another campus many states away in the other direction

Alumna kindly offered to help you one time in person, and twice via email. You did not respond to either email.

2. Do not contact that same alumna, 6 months later and during the Christmas holidays, and tell her that recs are due in a week so can she get hers in by that time. Providing her with a bulleted LIST of activities ("cheerleading, track, choir") and not an actual resume didn't help your cause.

3. Once you drop out of that recruitment, because, ya know, no recs and all, do not cop the tired attitude of "sororities are SO elitist. How could they know I am not the most special of special snowflakes in only 15 minutes?" (hint: they can't... but the rec that COULD have been sent in 6 months prior might have given them a heads up about you. Or you could have been as rude to them as you were to the alumna who was actually trying to help you and they did learn everything they needed to know in that short 15 minutes.)

4. After not getting your bid do not become the campus alcoholic and tramp, including full documentation of such all over your very public social media. Your campus is not as large as you think it is. They will know.

Because, now that word has gotten back to us that you plan to try to rush again this year we are sitting back with our popcorn. This will NOT turn out well for you.

Amen, amen, and AMEN Sister!

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Originally Posted by ComradesTrue (Post 2294866)

As I'm sure you realize, it shouldn't have to be said but, I will say it: Please keep us posted on Special Snowflake. We love a good story over here on GC. Haha! Geez! I can't believe someone would act so horribly. You are much kinder than you really needed to be by offering up help various times. Good for you. Yes, please keep us posted.

Unless brother's fraternity was called I Am Justin Timberlake and Have Money I Don't Want, she was dead in the water before the end of #1.

I feel confident that the PNM in question will get a bid from Gamma Delta Iota.

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Originally Posted by amIblue? (Post 2294887)

I feel confident that the PNM in question will get a bid from Gamma Delta Iota.

Don't forget about Sigma Omicron Lambda! She definitely has a chance there, too.