I agree with you guys that her Rho Chi is shady but you shouldn't jump to conclusions and say she's a Sigma Kappa.

You are right, clearly her RX is from some entirely other chapter and pulled sigma kappa out of thin air.

Her Rho Chi could have gotten her mixed up with another girl, we don't know what happened.

Maybe there was some kind of mix up in Panhel that we don't know about. I was a PX last year, and weird mix ups can happen. I know sometimes a member of Panhel would just tell me to take an action and I would follow. Maybe her PX was just following orders? There is always a possibility that she is a SK, but maybe we should let RedFox call Panhel and see if she can find anything out?

Pam, I am so sorry that things have not worked out so far. Please consider COB - it seems to be a good and more informal way to meet more members and make an informed decision. You should be proud of yourself for what you have done - many girls would not have wanted to rush.

Feel better, ok??

Hey ya'll....no snap bid for me...so maybe COB is an option.. I'm feeling a lot better than I have been these past couple of days...I found out that my GX is a Pi Beta Phi...haven't heard from her since but i got a couple phone calls from girls in my rush group asking if I was alright and we are still friends..adorable girls. I'm going to give them a call tonight and see where they ended up today. I guess it was just a mix up...but oh well. COB starts September 2nd. What exactly happens now? Do they come to me or what?

Usually (at least at my school), the sororities that will be having open bidding will have COB parties. They are generally much more relaxed than formal recruitment and a lot more fun, I think! I would either contact the sororities and find out who is having parties and when or be on the lookout for advertisements. Don't discount any sororities you didn't like or that cut you - start with a fresh slate! You may find qualities about them you didn't see before since the atmosphere is more relaxed and vice versa!

Just want to echo DZHBrown's advice! This is a whole new ballgame, and actually, a little more realistic. Any friends you've made in the various chapters or your Rho Chi group who are in sororities that are COBing - let them know that you're interested! They are just as interested in having people come to their COB parties as you are in going!

Call the Panhellenic Building and ask who's doing COB.

COB is a great way to go! AS most people on GC know, my chapter did not do so hot in formal recruitment. We have been COBing since Bid Day(the 18th) and have gotten 7 new girls- one of which is a JUNIOR! I think COB is a wonderful way for you to get to really know the girls. I know I am more comfortable at COB parties than formal parties and the girls get to know the real me that way.

Whatever you do, Good luck!

(even if you're a Vol...:cool: )

Go through COB it is a great experience, and many of the chapters are more at liberty to take the older girls they had to pass on during formal. As someone else said formal recruitment has so many rules regarding cuts and things. Please keep in mind that sometimes cuts (especially early on) have nothing to do with you as a person and going to a COB party can give you and them a second chance to make a good fit.

That is wacky about the Sigma Kappa invite... Sounds like Panhel was being pretty stressed out!

I, too, encourage you to check out COB at any of the chapters you felt a connection with.

Thanks guys for the support. But how exactly does COBing work? Do they come to you and can you COB more than 1 sorority? Are there cuts? COB'ing here starts September 2nd. I heard from a friend of mine that went Sig Kap that they are still calling girls about snap bids...dunno whats up with that but anyway, toodles for now :)

Pam, every school does it differently, but usually any of the women who signed up for rush but didn't pledge is contacted by the various sororities for COB. At my school, it was not considered gauche to contact any of the (geniune) friends you've made and tell them you're interested in COB. Some schools have a more structured COB, or at least have a second Pref. It wouldn't hurt to contact the Greek Advisor and find out what the tradition is for YOUR school.

Most of all, keep that wonderful attitude of yours, and best of luck to you!

Usually with COB the org has an open party for anyone that is interested, could be as informal as a bowling party or as formal as pref was. You still have to meet the school's minimum standards for rush ie. GPA, good standing... Sometimes they advertise, sometimes it is word of mouth. There are no cuts it is usually just one evening and then they make their decisions. They will usually tell the women at the party to be home at a certain time on a certain day, and that is when they will notify you.

You may attend more than one COB, but remember that the orgs make their decisions and extend bids quickly during this time. It is not like rush where you will get the chance to see several groups at one time. You should only COB groups you think you can see yourself in and would accept a bid from immediately, if offered, because if ABC extends a bid you can't really tell them you need to wait a week because you still want to go to COB at XYZ.