Um, does anyone else think this is a bit fishy? I don't know your feelings about your rho sigma, but I don't like her.

Yea, I think that this rho sigma seriously needs to get her facts straight before she calls and tells you that you're invited to pref...I mean that's totally not at all cool. Well, I hope that COB works out with Alpha Chi!

Hey Pam - I have been reading your thread (whenever I am able to get on the internet!) and crossing my fingers for you every step of the way - now to know that AXO is in your heart, makes me ache for you even more! Any chapter would be lucky to have you, and if they can't see that, then they are missing out!! This ESPECIALLY goes for AXO!

Having gone through many recruitment sessions, I can tell you that I always tell them not to discount the older girls -- yes, having freshmen is better for longevity with the chapter, but they often lack the maturity and grace that they need to be responsible!!

I pledged as a junior, and have been WAY more active for the Fraternity through my alum status than any freshman :p

Don't discount snaps or COB's -- or informal recruitment if chapter's on campus offer it. It doesn't mean they pity you, or are less desirable chapters - it means that they saw something special in you, and you can be just what they need to get some new energy sparked!!

Regardless of how it works out in the end, you are a trooper and you have done no shame to yourself or to us - you only make us believe more strongly that saying "no" automatically to juniors isn't always a smart move! Best wishes to you always!!!

wow!
 

first time i read a rush thread and i have to say it was very intense and dramatic.

you can always be a Sig Ep Sweetheart :)

your rho sigma is very shady....that's ridiculous.
but keep your head up. if cob presents itself, run with it. keep a smile on your face and understand we are all so proud of you.

Well said, 33girl!

I was extended a COB bid, and was thrilled that AOII wanted me. Trust me, I've never heard of anyone being extended a "pity bid" anywhere. If you are extended a bid--whether it's through Formal or a Snap Bid or Open recruitment/COB--it's because that sorority wants YOU. I've been part of AOII for almost 20 years now, and I can state that it hasn't made a difference all about how I got to AOII.

I don't know if anyone will have COB at UT-K, but if you're interested make sure to ask someone and follow up if need be! There's nothing wrong with asking and letting the recruitment staff know you'd still be interested in joining a sorority! Good luck!

Christin

Pam, I am so bummed out that things didn't work out for you! You're such an awesome girl and you'd make an incredible addition to any sorority.

i am chiming in on the COB idea. Don't let one event get in the way of your dreams. I have never been thru formal recruitment nor does my house participate in it, but our events are similar to COB events, so I have heard. You get to know more girls... you aren't forced to leave to go to another one after 30 minutes... people are more relaxed.

Also, try a local sorority. Particularly ones that are associated with Panhellenic if possible. (I don't know who is at your school.) The way I figure, a greek is a greek, regardless.

If I were you I would contact the greek advisor about her. For her to do that to you, who knows she may have done that to other girls. Let them know so she can not be another Gamma Chi again and hurt girl that are not as strong as you.


Chris

I agree. It was VERY wrong of her to renew someone's hopes and then dash them again. This could not be proper procedure and should be looked into.

ditto

Oh my gosh, I thought I was gonna choke when i read through everything. I'd be so upset if that happened to me. You are a strong women to even be able to type after that.

I really have to agree with everyone that COBing would not be pity. If they didn't want you, they wouldn't take you, period. Formal recruitnment has so many restrictions and rules, COB may be perfect for the house to let in all the girls they really want to. Go for it like you did for formal!! It could pay off big time!

I think it is a very strong possibility that your Rho Chi is a SK...and she is having a lot of trouble remaining neutral.

I'm so sorry about your rush experience...I would definitely recommend checking out any of the sororities that are COBing. It is a TOTALLY different experience and it might open up a lot of doors to houses that you might not have clicked with during rush...Good Luck!

I'm really sorry that things have turned out the way that they have. If you are still feeling uncomfortable with your Rho Sigma's behavior, PLEASE contact Panhel!

I did COB, and I think it's a great thing. Please contact me if you have any questions or concerns, okay?

Hugs!