It's not about whether you get it or not, it's about the fact that you took a potentially negative situation, and worked an angle to make it positive for you!

HAHAHA!!! Naw man, but I feel what you're sayin'....we can afford to be picky. I said I'd never be with someone who smokes either, but I had a thought: What if you find someone right for you, be with them for x amount of years, then they start smoking? You just walk away after that long? There are some things about people that might change, so I'm trying to sift through which battles I'ma fight.

CTFU!!! I don't know, I never liked "I'ma buy you a drink" before, but now I can't stop humming it...I might be catching a cyber case, I'll try to stay out yo' lane girl, but he is kinda stroking my ego a little...:p

You know I luuuvvv both you ladies! It's enough of me to go around...lol!:D:cool:

my sister too, LOL!

Correction, yes you are the last of a dying breed. Hmmmm, let's see. I don't believe in dating a lot of people. I believe that if you just wait, God will bring the person that you are suppose to marry to you (I know that opinion is not popular). From my experience, I have only had 3 boyfriends in my life, one of whom I was engaged to. They have left me because of the no sex/ no intimacy rule. When I say no intimacy, I mean just that. Holding hands and a kiss on the cheek is fine but that's it. My fiance left me too because although I broke my rule for him, he could not deal with the no intimacy rule ( I felt such guilt at breaking the rule that I recommitted myself to that rule and he did not want that, he felt that since we broke it we might as well keep breaking it. I disagreed the rest is history). So you see, there are women who want to live Godly lives, are living a wholesome and respectable lifetyle, but its the men who can't seem to control their hormones enough to wait on that kind of girl. It's the men that want the freak of the week or the down low boy toy. The thing that really angers me, is the men who passed me up because they heard about my rule and then latter on in life after they have had their share of women, want to come back to try to be with me so they can settle down. HECK NO!! Don't try to come back my way. What's even worse is those fools that tell me "you a nice girl, pretty and all that but its unrealistic to think some man is going to stay faithful to you when you not trying to show a brotha a little intimacy. I can wait a while, but you talking intimacy for marriage and that could be 3 years and a man ain't gonna wait that long and be faithful to you at the same time". Its sad but I am finding this to be true. The man that will do this is RARE!! He may still be on the potter's wheel. Now tell me again that wholesome men are out there and I'll tell you yes they are like the last of the Mohicans.

I believe that, too but....now, I don't doubt my man's sense of direction, but would it be too much interference if I drew him a map? Just in case? :p

WE ARE --->HERE<---. If I had a dime for every time I heard that from a man (and women for that matter), I'd be able to pay back my student loans. :mad:

^^^Ladies I am so apologetic on behalf of the good men out here in the world. I am a firm believer that anything (and I mean anything) worth having is worth waiting for! I tell my young Kappa League boys all the time that 1)Quality before Quanity and 2)I believe God arranged our bodies in order of importance. In other words, your brain and your heart come before your loins!

I think that's great that you're a good woman. Stay that way. Like I said before hold on to the panties and see how long a joker hangs around. If he leaves, then he's a sorry low down joker. I like it when women hold back the panties. To me it means she's not just about sex. Also, I've never been the aggressor. The women I've gone out with in the past have always made the 1st move, so for me sex is great but not a priority.

When most women get a good guy, their insecurities come out and they mess up everytime. At least they did with me. A lot of times that comes from dating bad boys, and other reasons too. Most women simply think most men, if not all are dogs, and that's far from the truth. Like I said, sex is great, but it's not the end all be all. Me personally, I love having sex, but only with one woman. If she chooses not to have sex, then that's cool too. As long as she's a good woman, I'm her's for life with or without the sex. Now if I'm married to her, yeah, if she still doesn't want to have sex, then something's wrong with her.:rolleyes: As long as she doesn't give me a reason to leave, which would be a form of cheating, then I wouldn't leave. To me cheating doesn't only mean sleeping with another guy.;)

Faithful? Yes, I've always been this way. In my past relationships, I just chose the wrong women. They were out there, and I was and still am the opposite. They would lie to me by trying to lower the number of men they slept with so I would be with them, and like an idiot I would. Not anymore. I know if she's lying now. Fool me once, shame on you, fool me twice shame on me. I've always known women to like bad boys. I've always said that if I ever met a beautiful woman who didn't fool around with bad boys, came from a good family, was educated, God fearing, honest, faithful, and loved me for me and only me, that would be my woman. I used to always go last behind bad boys, but now there's no way in hell. I've never ever cheated and I never will, and there are a lot of men out there like that, you just have to kind of run into them by accident I guess.:p

Christiangirl, you and I both would be debt free :rolleyes: Honestly, I am not expecting a man to be perfect because I am not, although I am striving everyday for Godly perfection. However, I do expect him to be faithful and to respect my beliefs and values. What is really getting me is this expectation that after they go out and sew their oats all over the world, that we (good women) are supposed to be there waiting on them to ask us to marry them and live happily ever after. AS IF!! I mean I know there is a shortage of available black men but we are not that desperate because a sista like me will marry a white, Asian, Hispanic, etc.,

PB, did you like your brownies?:)

^^^WTF??? :confused: Don't be offended by this, but you make as much sense as a car parked on top of a building. It's amusing, entertaining even, but a little creepy at the same time.

*closing my eyes and walking around hoping to run into somebody* :p Didn't you say at one point that you're gonna want to "get busy" with a girl before the wedding and that, while you want a reasonable amount of time, you weren't waiting that long? :confused: Just trying to get my stories straight before I lie on you. ;)

I just found this book called Ending the Search for Mr. Right: How to be Found by the Man You've Been Looking For. Shoot find me, son, FIND ME. :D Lol, I'm not rushing marriage, I'm not even old enough to rent a car, but it'd be nice to have somebody who wasn't tryin' to play like my chest was staring at his eyes. :rolleyes:

Nupe, your post made me proud. Stand by your principles, keep your eyes on the prize, charge those women who are $2 stank hoes to the game, and always keep it mackin'.

Phi V

So what about the women who helped these dudes sew their oats, and they have six kids by six daddies? Are we supposed to be around waiting for them too? It goes two ways!

(Inconrhollable) I wish I had a penny everytime I heard a black woman say there are a shortage of good black men out there. I would have more money than Bill Gates.:rolleyes: That's a cop out now. Back in the day I literally believed that crap, but I don't anymore. It's cool though, because at the same time I can easily say there's a shortage of good black women too. One thing I do agree with you about though, is the fact that you will try any race. Don't just wait for a good black man, because I stopped waiting for a good black woman 4 years ago. To me a woman is a woman, color doesn't matter anymore. If the girl is fine, and treats me how I treat her, then I'm all for it. Good luck.

(cheerfulgreek) LMAO. Yup, they were really good.:) Your cooking skills may be suspect,:rolleyes: but you can bake the hell out of some brownies.:D

(christiangirl) I encourage waiting until marriage to have sex, but I'm a man with sexual desires so things do happen. As far as how long I wait, that depends on the woman and that's private.;)

(Kapital phinust) Thanks Nupe.
Phi Nupie :D