Ditto what they both said -- I know you are feeling low now but don't rule out COB -- you'd be an asset at any house and it's unfortunate things turned out like this but COB is always a possibility -- if you don't at least give it a try you may kick yourself years from now...we are all behind you - don't forget that!:)

I'm so sorry. :(

Listen to Crystal... wise words.

Chin up :) and think about COB.

There are always other options...

Like everyone else said there is no reason to be embarrased...most juniors wouldn't even have the guts to go through formal recruitment anyway!!

Pam, it seems like you've been my partner through this whole thing since the beginning. We were both really nervous about going through as older girls. things may not have worked out as you hoped, but you did make an impression on these girls, a great one I'm sure. Limitations hurt everyone. Perhaps COB will be a great chance for the sisters to take lots of PNM's like you! Girls they loved but had to cut. I'm verry sorry you had to go through this, but your such a great person, things have to turn out right in the end.

Many hugs to you Pam. Hope you enjoy the weekend and think about COBing too.

Pam you did an amazing job and are an amazing woman! COB is a viable option for you and I hope you explore it! Good luck!

I just wanted to jump in and encourage you to try to COB, as well. I joined through COB, and believe me, it's definitely not a "pity bid." A sister is a sister, no matter how she joined. And, even if you don't get to COB, alumnae initiation is always another possibility. Just because you were not able to join from formal recruitment doesn't mean that all doors are shut to you. Good luck with whatever your decision may be.

Pam--this is really rough. I totally admire anyone who goes through recruitment as a junior! Don't rule out COB and stick around!

AWWW sweetie I am so sorry to hear that you fell through :( but its hard going through as a jr they dont think youre going to stick around enough or something I dont really know . but anyways you do still have a shot at COB :) I hope all goes well.

Nichole

I know there's nothing we can say to stop those cuts from hurting. But please, please don't feel that you've let us down. You were so generous to share your story with us, and we would hate to think that we are contributing to your sadness even in the tiniest way. YOU tackled an uphill battle and gave it your all; how could we think that you had let us down?

There are so many ways to get involved on a big campus; I hope you'll explore singing groups, religious groups, public service groups, club sports, publications. To be perfectly frank, sororities do not have any kind of monopoly on helping you find a lifelong group of close college friends who you love like family. You can find that without COB, without AI, without greek life at all.

Ivy

oh sweetie, I'm soo sorry. Trust me when I say I know how you feel. Please don't let this experience make you feel any less about yourself, and things will get better in time :)

Sometimes National HQ strongly discourages a chapter from taking juniors during formal recruitment. If you join through COB, it could be what the sisters wanted all along.

pam, you did a great job this week!!! don't think that just bc you got cut means that no one liked you!!!! as we have all said, there are a zillion superficial reasons- grades, class standing, etc.- that would have nothing to do with how the chapters thought of you as a person! take a peek a cob, bc you never know what you will find. plus, as my wise sister, deltabetababy, just said, there may have been a push to take more younger girls in formal, but that doesn't mean they won't pick you up afterwards. see what chapters are having cob events right after rush and see what they have to offer!! good luck with your decision!

pam, i think you should be proud of yourself for getting through the week, in general. it's SUCH a stressful time and many girls drop out - you had the initiative to go through even though you knew it would be hard, and you kept going even though the week wasn't all pansies and roses. you can always try COB like people have said, but you should also be glad that you had the guts to experience this and you should NOT take it personally.

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Okay this is really weird...I just got a phone call from my Gamma Chi and she said that I was asked back to Sigma Kappa for pref..and that there was some mix up or something...this is so weird since I wasn't asked back after open house...she said she's going to call me back and explain the details..She said I can pref them but I want AXO..what do you think I should do? Is it possible to get a snap bid from AXO as well or what I dunno what to think it was all so fast