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PrettyBoy 01-18-2007 12:57 AM

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Originally Posted by iotamason (Post 1383797)
The no.1 reason men as well as women cheat is they feel their partner is lacking in a certain area in the relationship.

I believe there are 5 points in a relationship in which the people will have to be connected: Emotional, Mental, Physical, Spiritual, and Sexual.

As long as these five points coincide between the two individuals, a man will see no reason to go elsewhere. All needs are met. It is when something is not connecting between the two or they are not on the same "level" will infidelity happen.

Emotionally- A man wants a woman that will encourage him not tear him down. He wants her to let him know that he is needed. In turn he should be comfortable to confide in his woman with his emotions and it not be seen as a "weakness" but strength that he has that much trust in her.

Mentally- The man and woman should be on the same wavelength when it comes to conversation. THe should be able to connect on mulitiple range of topics and share the same interest... also think of this as "Communication"

Physically- There must be some type of attraction....that way if everything else lines up ... something that "Sparkles a little more" will not make the brotha stray.

Spiritually- Every man wants a woman that can be his "rib" especially if it deals with religion, they should have at least the same basic views so that being unequally yoked spiritually will not become a problem.

Sexually- In marriage a husband and his wife become one. The husband should be willing to do whatever it takes to keep his wife satisfied as well as vice versa.. If everything you need to satisfy you is done behind closed doors then a man will not go out else where to be satisfied..

See, this is why I'm going to go ahead and stay single. All of this is too much for me. All this connection stuff. Nobody is perfect, because if we were, arguments wouldn't start. I definitely don't disagree with you. All of your points are right on, but no one is this perfect. See, this is why the divorce rate is 65%, because as soon as one of those points you just mentioned is off, rather it be a little or a lot, most couples want to call it quits. Relationships are way too hard.

7thSonofOsiris 01-18-2007 12:11 PM

Pretty Boy...
 
PB,

What up mang? Fear not young Padawan, for you are destined to fall in

love, simply because that's part of GOD's plan for all of us. You just need

to pray that she's not half-retarded or krazy:D. This country's

divorce rate is only indicative of this country's leadership and this

country's moral decay. It's all a cyclical flow of madness Bruh, but, that's

convo for a later show.

In regards to love, I don't know much, but I do know this.

Your job is to be the man that you were designed to be, and as you

work to become that beacon, your light will become so illuminescently

bright and strong, that the woman that GOD has destined for you, will find

her way to you because of it Bruh.

the 7th Son

btb87 01-18-2007 03:26 PM

^^^
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KAPPAtivating 01-18-2007 04:39 PM

I believe women have known their "Power" over men since Adam and Eve. But like my pastor says, you know what is about to go down when the candles are burning, the wine is in the glass, and Jodeci is playing...so don't even get in the situation. But the Bible states that GOD never allows us to be tempted without having a way out.

PrettyBoy 01-19-2007 07:01 AM

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Originally Posted by 7thSonofOsiris (Post 1385605)
PB,

What up mang? Fear not young Padawan, for you are destined to fall in

love, simply because that's part of GOD's plan for all of us. You just need

to pray that she's not half-retarded or krazy:D. This country's

divorce rate is only indicative of this country's leadership and this

country's moral decay. It's all a cyclical flow of madness Bruh, but, that's

convo for a later show.

In regards to love, I don't know much, but I do know this.

Your job is to be the man that you were designed to be, and as you

work to become that beacon, your light will become so illuminescently

bright and strong, that the woman that GOD has destined for you, will find

her way to you because of it Bruh.

the 7th Son

You make all the sense in the world, and I agree with you, but it's really hard. It's hard to tell when GOD sends someone special my way.

PrettyBoy 01-19-2007 07:02 AM

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Originally Posted by KAPPAtivating (Post 1385768)
I believe women have known their "Power" over men since Adam and Eve. But like my pastor says, you know what is about to go down when the candles are burning, the wine is in the glass, and Jodeci is playing...so don't even get in the situation. But the Bible states that GOD never allows us to be tempted without having a way out.

LOL.

Professor 01-19-2007 10:38 AM

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btb87 01-19-2007 10:53 AM

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Originally Posted by PrettyBoy (Post 1386099)
You make all the sense in the world, and I agree with you, but it's really hard. It's hard to tell when GOD sends someone special my way.

I firmly believe that without a doubt, you will know. God delights in giving us what we ask for, so I don't think if you ask him for a physically and spiritually beautiful, God-fearing woman (if that's what you want) that he's gonna send you a 8'3" cyclops. Also, it's not always about what the person looks like on the outside - what is this person's character?

I won't get into all of that, but like I said a few seconds ago, you'll know. Just know that everything that comes your way is NOT of God.

7thSonofOsiris 01-19-2007 12:57 PM

BtB...
 
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Originally Posted by btb87 (Post 1386167)
I firmly believe that without a doubt, you will know. God delights in giving us what we ask for, so I don't think if you ask him for a physically and spiritually beautiful, God-fearing woman (if that's what you want) that he's gonna send you a 8'3" cyclops. Also, it's not always about what the person looks like on the outside - what is this person's character?

I won't get into all of that, but like I said a few seconds ago, you'll know. Just know that everything that comes your way is NOT of God.


That's so very true, BtB. I have learned that when it comes to expecting what GOD has already promised us, we must be intentional and pray for "specific" things. Ask not, want not. If a Bruh only prays for a dime piece, he'll get that dime piece, the only thing is, is that when she arrives, she may be a half-retarded ass Monkey in the brain.

the7th

KAPPAtivating 01-19-2007 09:30 PM

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Originally Posted by 7thSonofOsiris (Post 1386224)
That's so very true, BtB. I have learned that when it comes to expecting what GOD has already promised us, we must be intentional and pray for "specific" things. Ask not, want not. If a Bruh only prays for a dime piece, he'll get that dime piece, the only thing is, is that when she arrives, she may be a half-retarded ass Monkey in the brain.

the7th


I learned the hard way with that one!

PrettyBoy 01-20-2007 12:49 AM

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Originally Posted by btb87 (Post 1386167)
I firmly believe that without a doubt, you will know. God delights in giving us what we ask for, so I don't think if you ask him for a physically and spiritually beautiful, God-fearing woman (if that's what you want) that he's gonna send you a 8'3" cyclops. Also, it's not always about what the person looks like on the outside - what is this person's character?

I won't get into all of that, but like I said a few seconds ago, you'll know. Just know that everything that comes your way is NOT of God.

My relationships have never worked out, that's why I'm skeptical about getting involved in another one. It must be me, because I can't figure out why they don't work.

cheerfulgreek 01-20-2007 04:15 AM

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Originally Posted by PrettyBoy (Post 1386544)
My relationships have never worked out, that's why I'm skeptical about getting involved in another one. It must be me, because I can't figure out why they don't work.

Maybe you're picking the wrong girls. So it is you, if you are.

Professor 01-22-2007 09:37 AM

Its hard being a pimp - lol - Because there is such a shortage of available black men, women are always after men regardless of the fact that the man may be in a relationship. To that end, it can be challenging for many men to remain in committed relationships.

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Originally Posted by PrettyBoy (Post 1386544)
My relationships have never worked out, that's why I'm skeptical about getting involved in another one. It must be me, because I can't figure out why they don't work.


TonyB06 01-22-2007 09:46 AM

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Originally Posted by Professor (Post 1387373)
Its hard being a pimp - lol - Because there is such a shortage of available black men, women are always after men regardless of the fact that the man may be in a relationship. To that end, it can be challenging for many men to remain in committed relationships.

Bruh, you're joking with this, right?....

Professor 01-22-2007 09:52 AM

the pimp part, of course i'm joking - but not about women chasing men in relationships.
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Originally Posted by TonyB06 (Post 1387376)
Bruh, you're joking with this, right?....



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