PNM moms and dad!
 

As a greek mom to 2 at UGA, I've read the AJC articles and your posts here, and can remember well your worries and joys for your child this past week !! Mine have graduated but being greek at UGA was a wonderful experience for them. I hope and wish the very best for your daughters at the end of this experience !! I know that the whole recruitment process is hard work- for the PNMs and sororities. The PC at UGA works to provide a good outcome for both PNMs and sororities, but I can say for sure that you MUST have recs, let everyone you know that's active in a sorority now that you are going thru recruitment, and you have to have a very open mind. There are always several sororities that everyone really likes and recruit very well. Many of the PNMs want to come back, but the sorority can only have a certain number. To keep PNMs in the recruitment process as long as possible, you rank your choices and on occassion throw in an extra 2 or 3 choices. Many girls are disappointed, both PNMs and in the sorority, but for most, this probably imperfect system works out well. I would really recommend that each PNM rank every pref party they attend. When the formal bids are issued, a lot of the sororities already have a list of girls they will talk to immediately if they have an open bid and the openings to reach quota are sometimes very few. As parents, get involved with your child's group !! Throughout the year there will be activities for parents and families and I would encourage you to attend. You will be amazed at the wonderful friends, activities and events that your daughter has become a part of at UGA !!

As a former rho chi at uga (and vp membership) this does not sound like it would maximize her options. I do not think you are allowed to rank houses that you did not attend a pref party. Also, houses that make quota and are already at total are normally not allowed to make snap bids. They may go a little over on quota with quota additions (girls who have ranked all their options and do not land on a pledge list before it reaches quota is at any of their houses will often be added on at one to maximize the number of girls pledged), but are not normally allowed to go over quota and total with snap bids.

Another note on cob and possible pledgeship later in the year, yes all of these houses may lose some girls through early graduation and terminating pledgeship or membership, but will it really be enough for the sorority to want to do the entire member education program again? Often large houses will not have a member education period for just a few when they are dealing with over 200 and know it will even out next year. Just some thoughts....

Perhaps a little late, but maybe some of the girls should think about the reasons why they want to join a sorority and consider if the ones they are going to will possibly meet these reasons - we all have different reasons and none are right or wrong. Sometimes these things can get lost in the stress and emotions (and heat!).

Just to set the record straight my daughter loves the sorority she ended up with at Auburn; it was one of her two favorites from the beginning. I think you may be talking about AUGreekMom's (not AuburnMom's) daughter in your quote above.

I just wanted to clear things up so that the poor DG's at Auburn didn't think they had a new pledge that wasn't happy to be there! :)

good luck to all you Georgia Parents and your daughters from the Auburn parents and their daughters! We're keeping our fingers crossed for all of you.....

p.s... I so understand the comments about the lack of sleep from the Georgia parents. I slept with my cell phone and my house phone for a solid week when my daughter was going through rush at Auburn earlier this week; just so I could make sure I was there for her if she needed me.

It was nice to able to return the phones to their normal places in the house when the week was over!

I talked with my D earlier today. She is going back to 3 houses today, however of the 3 only one is and has been one of her top choices. She is considering suicide. Her thoughts are that of her two top choices last night, she would be happy with either one, but only one of those sororities was on her schedule this morning, and she didn't really want to be in the other two groups. After talking, she agreed to be open minded to the consider the girls who are potential new members (pledge class) as well as reevaluating the girls already in the house before making a final decision regarding suicide.

Suicide concerns me for her sake, but I can only be a listening ear, raise question to options, and be a voice of support to what ever her final decision.

I have prayed for decernment in the final phase of this crazy week for all the girls. Good luck to all girls and us parents. May we all sleep better come Friday night! :)

Good luck to your daughter!

Friday night you'll all be sleeping and I'll just be getting started! ;)

But at least all the "friends" will be settled and my daughter can concentrate on what's going on with her own rush!

You're being a very supportive mom for your D right now. I know that she's very disappointed, but I think that she's right to go to the 3 parties and evaluate again what each group has to offer. Sometimes, in all the frenzy and exhaustion of recruitment, these girls begin to think they've found what they want, but when they have a chance to look again at a group, they find something there they hadn't seen before. Very often these girls get to a pref party and realize that the other PNMs in the room are very much like themselves, and they find that they could be happy with that group. This a always very emotional but it will be over soon. Your D will be happy at UGA in or out of a sorority - and you'll be happy for her, too. Good luck to you both!!!

Thank heaven we all know what you're talking about, or this would sound really bad.

Then again, that's why the term suicide is used - to convey the gravity of what you're doing. "Intentional Single Preference" abbreviated to "ISP" doesn't quite cut it.

Poor use of words...
 

I need to retract and apologozie for the comment made earlier, "considering suicide" instead of S.I.P. (single intention preference). No thought was put into my typing and the manner in which someone might have read those poor choice of words.

My D is emotionally fine about this final phase of RUSH, just to clarify.

To all of you wonderful parents and family members who this may have read this and been disturbed by that phrase for what ever reason, please accept my sincere apologies.

UGAMOM01

Oh no, no need to clarify! I knew I should have put a ;) or :p in there somewhere.

If you said SIP or ISP or whatever the heck it is, 7/8ths of the people on here wouldn't have known what you were talking about. It's politically correct doublespeak at its finest! :)

Using an -ing will remove all doubt, especially on GC. ie. She is thinking about suiciding XYZ.

Here's the bottom line on not maximizing your options, as I see it: if a girls is sure that she'd rather not be Greek than be in a group, she shouldn't list the group.

If she lists them and ends up matched to that group and determines that she still doesn't want to be a member of that group, she has to wait a year before she can accept another bid.

But if she doesn't list them, she cuts her changes of receiving a bid by at least a third and actually more because if she lists all three groups, she is guaranteed a bid at one of them as a QA*

Only listing one or two, if she doesn't match, she can only hope for a snap bid from a different group or the chance to COB later.

Personally, at UGA, I don't think that listing or not listing really changes the outcome any. COB is such a rare thing for many groups that for a girl who is willing to rule groups out in formal matching as bad fits (or beneath her), retaining the option to COB isn't worth much to her.

ETA: It's been called to my attention that it's not actually guaranteed.

5:30 Thursday can't come quick enough
 

:eek:Aghhhh! I'm so confused! And I know that she is too!!!!!!!! Put #3 or not! But it's done now.

:confused: I'm calling her and saying - "Live, Love, Laugh"! (It's funny as when I was her age, I wore a charm that had that saying. And, now those 3 words get posted on lots of walls in pictures etc.) I think that they are very appropriate words for our girls tonight!

Cluelessugamom and all the other UGA parents awaiting bid day tomorrow:

We are all thinking about you tonight. I know it's hard but I'm sure that everything will turm out for the best. Even if she does not get her #1 pick, please tell her to keep an open mind. We're all hoping for the best possible outcomes, though. My red carnation is for you tonight cluelessugamom.

Kathyc

UGAmom
 

Does anyone know if they announce quota to the PNM's? My daughter has not heard anything, but I was wondering if this is still determined and announced ahead of time. Much has changed since I was at UGA.