That could be it--it might have been in their chapter bylaws; but again, that could be considered hazing by today's standards. You have to be really careful.

Again, the point we were making is that NOT all NPCs tell their new members they cannot wear letters, although some may still do that. I can not speak for any organization, even my own, since I am not a national officer. However, of the 4 NPC organizations on my undergraduate campus, and the 2 NIC fraternities, ALL of them allowed their new members to wear letter jerseys. No new member was told not to wear letters at any time.

I know that for Theta Phi, it is the National Policy that pledge sisters may wear letters starting on Bid Day. I know that it's not the norm at some campuses, but our pledge sisters may wear letters, just not the crest.

As far as the letter thing, you can't tell the pledges in most NPC groups they are NOT allowed to wear letters...however, if "campus culture" frowns on pledges wearing letters, you really can't force them TO wear them. That would be hazing as well. It's like frilly rush - no one wants to be the first one to stop and whatever the more popular groups do will be followed by the rest of the campus.

Okay there is no other way to answer this question other than the way it was answered. No Wait!!!! maybe this will help En es spanol...NO..in French......NO. sorry. Could't resist.

What I want to know is why you would join an org if you werent really feeling it. It sounds to me like you only joined because your first choice wasn't available....which means you want to wear the T-shirt.

I agree. THe entire idea of depledging is just crazy to me. IF youare that unsure, just don't do it....and once you do it, live with it.

Puh Leez. I don't even want to think about the drama it would cause if a non-member had on the letters. Not to criticize how things are done in your org but letters with or without the coat of arms is the biggest no no.....shoot on GC if you have the letters...or even anything like a word or number that may possibly be associated with an org in your username and you aren't a member it can get really ugly pretty fast.

Really? You had me at the Puh Leez.

You might want to stay in your lane on this one.

No disrepsect intended.

very interesting thread

what I wanna know is how she picked me of all people to pm

Oo, post it post it post it!! :):):D

Often times it is not about the prospect being unsure.

She picked me, too.