Day 5
 

Emma texted. There is good news and bad news.

The good news is that she has a full slate of 7 for Skit Day!

The bad news is that she was cut by two of her favorities, the Diamondbacks and the Blue Jays. She was particularly surprised by the Blue Jays because so many of them came up to her to talk to her during her last visit.

Today she will visit the following, again in no particular order:

Angels
Dodgers
Rays
Reds
Cardinals
Cubs
Angels
Pirates

She still has two of her favorites left, and does like something about each of the remaining groups she has left.

I hope to update again to tonight.

At 17 (or 18 or 19), life's disappointments are incredibly painful because we don't yet have the experience or resilience built up to understand that everything happens for a purpose, which may or may not be easily discerned. There are so many "firsts" to go through which shape and form us into the people we are to become.

And as parents we want to protect and shield our children; it is also difficult to trust the process. We do not want our children to hurt, although we know that life does hold bumps and bruises as well as elation and joy. How many times did I have to hear "life is lived forwards, understood backwards" before I truly understood and accepted what that meant? When you're in the moment, it's not easy to apply that. Believe me, I know.

My heartfelt belief is that "our" Greek Chat Auburn parents and daughters will find the strength to follow the paths they've set out upon, because I've been touched by the stories they've shared thus far. I am sending you all strength, confidence, and best intentions for outcomes (that may surprise you - how many times have we read about surprises? lots!). Please know that I am thinking of you all (as well as all the other young women and parents who may be reading this while going through recruitment), and I've been privileged to share your stories.

Deep peace to everyone.

While it may be a little disappointing, I'm sure all the chapters she'll visit today are still wonderful chapters to belong to. Good luck to her, and I hope she finds her home at the end of the week!

It is so hard for the girls on either side of the process to get a true picture of what the other is like in such a short timeframe. :)

AUMom, My niece went through recruitment 6 years ago at a competitive PAC 10 school. She had the perfect recruitment up until Pref where she was dropped from every group she LOVED and left with 2 groups that she thought were just ok. I got a phone call in tears over what she should do, what happened ect. I told her she had 2 options. She sticks it out and attends the 2 preference parties and makes a decision then OR she could drop out and forget about being Greek and move on. She chose option number 1. She pledged this group and the weird thing is it was a perfect fit for her. She didn't realize it at the time. She still is wistful for one group on campus (which cracks me up), but she has now graduated. She had a wonderful sorority experience and made life long friends in the process. BTW, she is as crazy about recruitment as I am:)

I feel for your daughter. It is so hard when your kids have disappointments in life. I always want to take away all the hurt. I think your daughter has a good chance of moving forward and I hope she gets to know her remaining groups better. Hang in there!

What a great point someone said about "why would you want to be in a group that doesn't want you?" I will pass this along to my Bama PNM that is having a tough rush. My AU PNM cousin has 7 to go to. She was cut by her legacy house but we saw it coming. She has her favorite in the mix, another one she really likes, another middle ground option and a few she doesn't feel she would pledge. Hugs to all of those who are stressing for their favorite PNM. What a nerve wracking week!

HI all-

I just got a text from Suzie, she said it was a bit hectic. She did receive a full 7 for today but was released from two she really liked.

I suggested that she go through today with " fresh new glasses" and look beyond the fluff and look for , sisterhood, how she could become involved.

Her houses today are
49ers
Saints
Panthers
Bears
Broncos
Raiders
Rams

As many of us on GC know, taking a second look is a good thing. Best wishes to all today.

This is exactly what we say...
 

...to the girls who attend or are not sure about attending our alum panhel's annual sorority info sessions! They can be helped so much by getting recs. AuburnDad, can I get your permission to use your quote on our power point slides for our May 2011 session?

My rec girl at AU has a great party schedule today! She is very excited!

Absolutely.

I think she should "worry" - that's not the right word - think about it - today. Try to look at it this way - she can concentrate on the groups that at first, she probably didn't pay too much attention to. If she has specific reasons why she doesn't like them, perhaps she can try to tactfully find out if they are just assumptions, or if they truly are "not for her". If she wants to be Greek, she needs to be open to the choices in front of her.

I understand her disappointment, but some girls might have none. It takes ONE. If she's enthusiastic about learning more about theses three groups, she might open her heart to a group of girls she otherwise would have dismissed.

Her perception of "party group" is based on...what? Tent talk? I guarantee in that in the "party sorority" of 150-200 members, maybe 10-15% are hard-core partiers (and I'm guessing on the high side). What about the other 85-90%? Find connections in the girls who aren't majoring in "party".

I am sorry she is disappointed, it's a tough week for sure. It is FAR too early in the game for her to say she will definitely NOT pledge a certain group. With 200+ members, there is something for everyone in each of these chapters. Encourage her to see that her opinions can change, sometimes drastically with each round, and Cookie Dough might actually turn out to be a great fit for her. Good luck to all of them.

BTW she had a rec letter for every one of the remaining seven.

Thank you! :)

Yay! Someplace where the Pirates are still in the running in mid-August! Bada bing, bada boom. (It's easier if you laugh at yourself before someone else does it.)

This thread is for Auburn rush, not Tennessee. Please don't make assertions that may not be true outside your own campus experience.