Keeping the Spark Alive

gphi2k2 · #1 10-01-2002, 02:17 PM

Hey all,
This is a question more for people who have lived with their significant other and/or is married to them.
I'm curious to know how you and your loved one keep the spark alive. How do you maintain spontenaety and romance? how do you keep things from getting comfortable and boring and taking eachother for granted?

And, if you're living arrangements turned into a disaster, what went wrong?

#2 10-01-2002, 02:44 PM

Ooh, very timely question. I'm moving in with my boyfriend in 2 weeks and have been thinking about this a lot myself lately.

Jaggergirl · #3 10-01-2002, 02:50 PM

I don't live with my BF but I am so scared that if we move in together and/or get married the spark will totally disappear and we'll turn into (gasp!) my parents.

Teach me the tricks so this doesn't happen!

KillarneyRose · #4 10-01-2002, 11:46 PM

Maintain your own separate interests; don't just become an extension of one another. That way, you'll have time apart and when you're together you'll have interesting things to talk about.

Not Recommended: Having one partner leave the country and live 14,000 miles away for 6 months. It's extremely rough on the phone bill. But then, the reunion should be pretty awesome!

gphi2k2 · #5 10-02-2002, 12:39 PM

bump

common gcers! someone here has to have some advice!

texas*princess · #6 10-02-2002, 01:10 PM

i don't have any advice yet.. although any more advice on this topic would be greatly appreciated... I *might* be moving in with my S.O. in a few weeks...

valkyrie · #7 10-02-2002, 01:41 PM

Two words: unusual places.

sororitygirl2 · #8 10-02-2002, 01:57 PM

I think the most important thing to remember is that you have to make an effort. Don't just fall into a routine. Think of crazy things you can do to keep it exciting -- for instance, maybe tuck little notes in his pants pockets before he goes to work, go somewhere different for dinner one night (like out for Morrocan or something), go away to a bed-and-breakfast for a weekend. Sign up to take a class together (maybe a massage course), be active together by going for runs or playing sports... there are so many things you can do besides the "going to work, coming home, eating and watching television" routine.

I think as long as you both realize the threat of monotony is ever-present, discuss what you can do to avoid it and actively work together to do so... you'll be golden!

MoxieGrrl · #9 10-02-2002, 01:58 PM

Exercise together....seriously. You haven't seen anything until you've seen your boyfriend doing Pilates.

Jaggergirl · #10 10-02-2002, 04:51 PM

moxiegirl -- no offence but I just took a Pilates class last night and I think one of hte last things I want to see is my poor boyfriend in those weird positions, too.

but hey, to each her own. Maybe I"m just bitter because I'm so damn sore today.

sororitygirl2 · #11 10-02-2002, 05:11 PM

I LOVE Pilates! It really is a workout!

shultzz · #12 10-02-2002, 05:35 PM

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Originally posted by valkyrie
Two words: unusual places.

yea, like in the butt.

Tom Earp · #13 10-02-2002, 06:02 PM

If It Dont Work Then Dont do it!

Do tht explain it all?

SuperSister · #14 10-02-2002, 09:18 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by shultzz

yea, like in the butt.

Or a very uncomfortable place . . . like the back of a volkswagon

Rudey · #15 10-02-2002, 11:44 PM

I hear playing "rodeo" brings a bit of change and excitement into a couple's relationship. You're supposed to tell the girl her breasts feel like her sisters and see how long you can hold on before she throws you off.

-Rudey
--Try some other variations like having your friends try and take naked pictures of her while she attempts to run away...aaaah young love.