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I am new to this forum. Please excuse me if I am breaking etiquette rules in joining this thread. I will not continue if I am intruding. Let me know.
My daughter's (I'll call her Susie) AU rush experience was also disappointing. I was Greek at a much smaller school and hope some of you can give me insight into where Susie's rush took a wrong turn.
She has all the bells and whistles (a complete package someone called her.) She had no set expectations but was looking for a chapter with values that matched her high aspirations. Susie (and I) worked diligently to secure recommendations and had at least two recs for every sorority except one on AU campus. And she was a legacy to one of the big (I'm told) chapters.
Susie also had acquaintances in a few chapters. Upon their invitations, she sent photos to about six of them who said they would make "posters" introducing Susie to their chapter members
She was advised to immediately drop her legacy sorority. But she liked them and felt she was warmly received. She kept them for second round, was dropped by one of her other favorites, but continued to second round with 12 invitations.
Susie, who had gone into rush with apprehension, started to enjoy the process. But when she did not receive invitations to third round parties from any of her top six choices including her legacy, she decided to withdraw. Susie reasoned she would not be satisfied with a second choice, and that staying in rush could prevent another PNM who really wanted one from getting a bid.
Susie is at peace with her outcome and feels rush was worthwhile for the friends she made. And if she is happy, I am happy. However, I can't stop wondering what went wrong?
Was it a mistake to send in that legacy form? Did it stop other sororities from seriously considering Susie? Was it a mistake for me to send recs for other girls to my sorority when my daughter was rushing at the same time? (None of them pledged my sorority)
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