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I'd also consider looking into: 1) Assuming your daughter is under 18, see if there is a Toastmasters Youth Leadership Program in your town. https://www.toastmasters.org/educati...ership-program The programs offered by Toastmaster clubs directly address the areas you mention in your post. They will definitely get her out of her comfort zone and help her develop confidence when speaking with individuals and groups. Once she becomes 18, she can participate in the regular Toastmasters clubs. This would be my first recommendation. 2) Another avenue (which has been suggested repeatedly) is for her to read Dale Carnegie's "How to Win Friends and Influence People." You can buy it used for about $3 or look up a summary on Google or get an audio book. There are also expensive training programs based on Dale Carnegie's work all over. But I'd start with the book. |
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I have a relative who just went through deferred recruitment and KSUViolet is right, there was just not enough time for her to come out of her shell. She is "total package" but extremely reserved and waits to assess a situation before she dives in. She was cut harshly after the first round and was left with her two least favorites after second, so dropped from the process. I warned her to ignore tent talk but she was overwhelmed, disappointed and discouraged. I think RFM is great for the chapters but maybe not so beneficial for our shy girls who need just a little more time to be able to shine. |
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That is part of the point of deferred rush - to give women a chance to get used to the campus community and to meet Greek women outside of the artificial atmosphere of rush. |
Rushing as a sophomore! It didn't go well last year at all! After reading alll of these posts I know that it had a lot to do with my conversational skills. I had tons of rec letters but I guess it did not make a difference at all. So, should i go through the whole process and get recs all over again. Is it worth it to rush as a sophomore. I know that 2 of my fall roommates are rushing as Sophomores as well. So many of my friends don't understand why I want to do this again. I really thought I made a connection with some of these girls last year and I was really devastated when I was not picked. It just seemed to make no sense. I know they say trust the process and you will find your forever home but you know when there are places you just won't fit, right? It is not a matter of tiers. I know I am not a top tier girl but after being there a year I know which ones are just not me. So any advice?
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It can help to cultivate the friendships with the new sorority members that began during rush-girls from your dorm and rush group.It can help to join orgs on campus that interest you. It's an added benefit if there are sorority members in those orgs.
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Got it! I dropped out of Rush because I was overwhelmed and I didn't think I was ready. I was making good connections in my mind then I wasn't invited back. My GPA from High School was well over a 3.0 or I would not have gotten in. My current GPA is over a 3.0. My clothes were clean,neat and appropriate. I had a mani and a pedi. I feel like I should have gotten a Spray Tan. There were sororities that I knew wouldn't pick me and that was ok. I am involved on campus in other positions. I am not going to lie, the sororities I was left with were just not ones where I felt I would fit so I felt dropping was for the best and trying again in Spring or Fall then I would know where I fit. I
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Consider this: many girls take a bid from a house "they don't think they fit in" only to discover that they do fit in and they even say how they couldn't imagine being anywhere else. There's a reason why we encourage girls to give a house a shot - and I mean really. Not just a few weeks, but go through pledgeship and put your best effort forward. |
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Oh are spray tans ever a thing. There were several stories that came out of Ole Miss this year when it was pouring buckets during recruitment. To draw a mental picture--wet freshly applied spray tans (especially if you get a bronzer) can run...and rub off on things...
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